Target These 3 Areas if You Want Radical and Lasting Transformation

transformationI call myself an expert ‘strategist’.

I spent 14 years as an officer in the army and then 5 years consulting to Olympic Games and mega events. I am not saying this to toot my trumpet, but to let you know that I like to be really strategic about stacking things in my favour so I get the BEST and BIGGEST results.

When it comes to TRANSFORMATION (becoming someone even greater, so you create something you have not created before) I want to consider all of the areas that are going to have the greatest return on investment (ROI).

I am not naive to think I can remove the ‘work’, but if I am going to do the work, I want to make sure I am working on the stuff that really matters. The things that have a bigger ROI compared to the effort you put in.

Thus I look to see exactly what can I do, to positively influence these three main areas:

  1. Past
  2. Future
  3. Present

Let’s have a look at each of them separately shall we.

 

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Are You Living Into Your Values or Feeling the Pain of Not?

ValuesI guess the question that might precede the question in the title of today’s musings and Happiness Tips is this:

Do you know what your primary VALUES are?

Do you REALLY know? (beyond the 23 second guess you might be inclined to do)

You might also be reflecting back to me, “Why is this an important question to commit my precious time and brain power to?”

Let me answer you question about why it is vitally important to understand what our primary and most important values are.

It’s actually simple.

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5 Common Obstacles to Finding and Living Your Life Purpose

obstacleThese days I spend a lot of time working with people to help them figure out what they ought to be doing with their precious life and time, in a way that fulfills them and adds a healthy dose of meaningfulness (to help them jump out of bed in the morning).

Today I will share with you what I have seen to be the biggest obstacles for people who are a bit lost in the jungle of life. Plus some ideas to overcome them. Given I used to be an engineer in the army once upon a time, there is nothing I like more than dealing with obstacles. Going around them, over them, under them, or for even more fun, blowing them up!!

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5 Ways to Make The Impossible Possible

impossibleThis is pretty much my job description as a Coach: “Help people to make their impossible goals possible.”

A recent client of mine was saying, “There is no way I am going to get the job I want in this foreign country that is so different from where I come from.”

I am happy to say they are now happily employed in their chosen profession after months of doubt.

I also just helped my second client prepare mentally to win the world titles in water skiing just the other week.

Do you have an impossible goal that you would love to bring to the light of day?
Are you ready for some important Tips on how to seriously increase your odds of making it a reality?

Then let’s get this party started!!

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How Darwin’s Little Mishap Makes Joy More Elusive (And What The Antidote Is)

joyHands up high if you have heard the statement ‘survival of the fittest’ attributed to Charles Darwin (many moons ago)?

Do you believe it?
Do you believe that the person standing solo at the top of the heap is the one that is going to survive for the longest?

Unfortunately for the health and happiness of the planet, somewhere along the line, societies as a whole have bought into the myth that the fittest, strongest, most powerful, will not only survive, but will win the race. The myth has perpetuated a collective sense (for many) that the attainment of personal glory is more important than the success of the tribe, team, family, group, company, country, etc. It has even lead many people to make unethical decisions to get to the elusive ‘top’. To lie, to cheat, to turn a blind eye, to manipulate, to compromise their values, and to neglect the impact of their actions on others.

Maybe this works for surviving (for a while); but if you would prefer to THRIVE and experience JOY, the ‘survival of the fittest game’ is a lonely one and will often mean that joy remains elusive.

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6 Great Tips for Making Even Better Decisions and Avoiding Disastrous Consequences

 decisionI spent about 45 mins the other day in a session with one of my clients helping them with improving their decision making abilities. It is definitely a teachable skill.

It is pretty obvious to me – and I suspect you will agree – that the choices we make, based on our decision-making process (or lack of one ;-)) have an enormous impact on the quality of our lives. It impacts the amount of joy we experience, and the amount of unproductive or negative stress in our daily lives.

Let’s get started (and these are not necessarily in priority order).

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Why Getting Really Really Clear On What You Want is The Best Investment You Can Make

writingDo you want to know what still surprises me?

Well I am going to tell you even if you don’t want to know, but I am tipping that you are just a bit curious…

One thing that I have seen a lot of late in my Coaching clients, plus I have been teaching on courses, is the idea that we really really need to know what we really really WANT.

I am tipping this is really really obvious to you.
But…
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Discover 3 Common Habitual Patterns That Motivate Us, BUT Don’t Make Us Happy

split heart brainMy favourite share with you guys and girls, come as a result of what’s coming up with the clients I am working with at the time.

And as some of you know, I have this belief that the right things, come up at the right time, for the right people. So I know some of what follows will turn on some serious light bulbs in people’s minds. Well I want the lights on, but then I also want you to roll your sleeves up and do the work.

I have always been fascinated by why we do what we do.

I see people achieving great stuff, but I like to look below the surface and see if it is also making them happy. Why are they doing what they are doing? What motivates them, and does what motivates them, lead them on a path of happiness and fulfilment. Continue reading

How to Live a Life of Purpose Off the (Yoga) Mat

yogaOne of core philosophies of ‘The Practice’ yoga centre, which we have instigated from the day the architect put pen to paper, is this idea that we need to take the principles that we teach on the mat in the classes of the yoga studio, into everything we do.

Principles like:

  • Create a solid foundation
  • Look inwards to see what is really going on
  • Be Non attached to the posture (and not worrying how you look)
  • Be content with where you are at
  • You have to do the work
  • Discomfort is part of the growth process
  • Breathe into where is tight (to bring energy and awareness to what is really going on)

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5 Things I Practice to Create A Fulfilling, Meaningful & Fun Life

prayerIf one of these resonates with you, please make sure you APPLY it in your own life. And feel free to modify it to suit you and your specific needs.

Practice Number 1

ACTIVELY practice GRATITUDE

Before I started writing these Tips, I meditated and then I focused on 5-10 things that I was grateful for. This is an active practice. Something I choose to do.

The reasons I choose to do it are three-fold: 1) I feel great doing it, 2) I feel great after I do it, 3) there is a healthy amount of research to suggest that over the long-term it makes a real and measurable difference in your default level of happiness.
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