At the time of this writing, I have been coaching a wide range of individuals, from all over the world, and from every walk of life for a little over 12 years.
And one of the most common things people tell me they want more of is ‘confidence’.
Somewhere along the line we have bought into the idea that CONFIDENCE = SUCCESS.
And that without ‘confidence’ you won’t succeed, or realise your dreams.
Here is what do I say to that?
“BULLSH#T!!!!”
I guess the question that might precede the question in the title of today’s musings and Happiness Tips is this:
Do you know what your primary VALUES are?
Do you REALLY know? (beyond the 23 second guess you might be inclined to do)
You might also be reflecting back to me, “Why is this an important question to commit my precious time and brain power to?”
Let me answer you question about why it is vitally important to understand what our primary and most important values are.
It’s actually simple.
I often think I am going to write a short newsletter, or tell you I am, but it rarely happens. So today might be a first for me, as my revelation was pretty damn simple (it happened in seconds).
Here is the background…
For a lot of clients I work with, a major thing on their shopping list of ‘Things I Want in My Life‘ is CONFIDENCE. “How can I have more confidence?” is a common question I am asked.
Does this sound counter-intuitive to you?Your impossible goal is only labelled as impossible (by you) because you have never breathed life into it. In fact it is much closer to you then you could ever imagine.
The main reasons being that the obstacles between this goal and where you are now are mostly constructs of your mind. So it is time for you to bend your reality like Leonardo DiCaprio in the movie Inception.
Would you like to have more willpower?!?!
If so, please keep reading…It is willpower that allows us to overcome the inevitable obstacles (real or perceived) as we move forward towards the things we want or desire in life. Willpower also is the key ingredient in holding us back from doing the stupid stuff that does not serve us, or causes us pain, or takes us off the path.The willpower to say ‘no’ (and follow through on it) is one of the most powerful things we can master.
So how do we build up our willpower to allow us to move towards what serves us, and hold back from that which does not?
You are about to find out…
Confidence is fast becoming the topic that most of my private clients, and people attending my workshops are most interested in.
How do I increase my confidence…in business, in relationships, in public speaking, in doing what I want to do with my life?
How can I be confident that things will work out in life?
Great question!!
I have a hypothesis (or few) on why I think people’s confidence might be an issue. Perhaps it is because of the following: