Category: Emotional

Discover Anxiety’s True Cost and the Solution

Post author By cm_admin
Post date June 16, 2026

Let’s just dive straight in.

I am at the airport lounge in Melbourne, on my way back to Bali, and my airport Lounge pass gets me 3hrs, so I want to get this Newsletter sorted chop-chop, and then get myself sorted with some yummy food I saw on the way in. 😉

The key messages of today’s article are simply:

1. There is a REAL cost to Anxiety (or any equivalent emotion that disrupts the nervous system).

2. There are great solutions (one with over 300 research studies validating its effectiveness).

When we truly understand what something is costing us, rather than a cursory understanding, it finally gives us the motivation and commitment to actually address it front on.

Rather than having its slow burn taking us off track.

Like an airplane, which is travelling from Melbourne to Bali, if the plotted course is deviated by just a degree or 2, you don’t end up in Denpasar (your intended destination), but probably land in one of the remote jungles on Papua New Guinea.

The same in life.

If anxiety causes you to go off course just a little bit, it ultimately alters your Destiny.

Let me tell you WHY anxiety throws you off course.

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The Best Stress Management Tool In My Bag of Tricks

Post author By cm_admin
Post date June 9, 2026

There are a few very valid reasons why this tool is one of my favourite, and most effective.

They include:

It is really easy to learn (we are talking 5-10 mins and for ages 6+).
It is FREE.
It goes everywhere with you, all the time.
There are no props required.
It is really simple to do.

But most of all…IT WORKS!!!

Imagine a stress management tool like that.

Learning it and using it would have to be a “no-brainer”.

Well, it is for me.

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Understanding And Overcoming “People Pleasing”

Post author By cm_admin
Post date May 26, 2026

I am always on the lookout for relevant topics.

Recently I was working with a client and a particular “topic” came up, and then 2 days later, the very same topic came up from a very different source.

I figure if 2 people in a short time are having an issue with “people pleasing“, there are bound to be a lot more people in the same situation.

And the focus will be on making this (as always) super practical.

In my mind, there is a HUGE difference between doing things because your big beautiful heart wants to, and doing things out of FEAR because of some unknown, subconscious program playing in the back of your mind.

Essentially running a script like: “If you DO NOT people please then bad things will happen, or you won’t feel good about yourself“.

It is like the HEART-initiated pleasing others elevates you, while the HEAD-initiated (due to untrue stories) takes you down.

Let’s explore this a little deeper.

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When A Virtue Like “Loyalty” Stops Being A Healthy Virtue

Post author By cm_admin
Post date May 19, 2026

This article is inspired by a Coaching session I had the other day.

Which has come up with a number of my clients.

There is a great message I want to share.

Not just in relation to Loyalty (which we will go deeper into), but all virtues in general.

Hands up if you think Loyalty is a great virtue?

Chances are most people would raise their hand.

Unless, you are now getting a bit suspicious about a trick question I may be asking you.

In that case, you might be gingerly raising your hand, slowly, so you can pull it down again, if you figure out where I am taking things.

Me personally (based on what I know and have experienced); I am not such a big fan of Loyalty if it comes in the 2-dimensional version, and not the 3-dimensional version; and even then, I reckon there are better virtues to hang your hat on.

Let me explain.

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Are You Tapping Into The True Healing Potential of Your Heart?

Post author By cm_admin
Post date April 21, 2026

I have been doing loads of deep thinking, over the last bunch of years.

Primarily on what does it take for us to truly thrive, and experience deep joy, wonder and amazement; when things around us might be a bit sh#t?

How can we transcend the drama’s playing out around us?

So, what we experience of the world is not of a low vibrational nature.

How can we experience deep joy, without having to ingest something, or distract ourselves, or “buy” something to make us feel better, or have someone else tell us we are worthy of feeling good?

How can we feel joy deep in our bones, regardless of external influences?

That is what interests and fascinates me.

And you know what?

Unsurprisingly, I keep coming back to the HEART, and the power of the heart.

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A More Effective Strategy Than “Trying to Find Yourself”

Post author By cm_admin
Post date February 18, 2026

I have coached lots of different people over the past 18 years.

Plus, I have been “coaching” myself for the last 26 years.

And something that has come up frequently in those conversations, when people reach out to me ready to do the “deeper inner work“, is their thoughts about “Who am I?”

Maybe you can relate to this.

In fact, if you ask yourself that question right now, do you receive a very coherent and clear response?

It’s actually a great question to play with.

But what I have consistently witnessed over time is that the idea of “trying to find yourself” is not the most effective Strategy.

And perhaps causes people to look in all the wrong directions.

Additionally, it doesn’t seem to tap into the most powerful parts of self.

The human being-ness of us.

One of the most powerful things we have access to is an UNIMITED potential to CREATE.

Which is our discussion point today.

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What to Do When Triggered

Post author By cm_admin
Post date February 3, 2026

Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy.

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Building Emotional Fitness For Peak Performance

Post author By cm_admin
Post date November 25, 2025

I am sure that I don’t need to convince anyone that physical fitness, increases your ability to perform at your peak.

And by physical fitness I am focusing – for this example – on the cardiovascular system.

The ability to get the maximum amount of oxygen into our cells.

One measure of physical fitness is how quickly an athlete can go from an elevated heart-rate to their resting heart rate.

For example, from 200 beats per minute, to 60 beats per minute (or lower).

Sort of like returning to a state of (physical) homeostasis.

Well, just like with the physical body, we want to do the same thing with our EMOTIONS.

My definition of emotional fitness is the ability to go from an elevated emotional state (principally in a survival emotional state), back to a state of equanimity (calmness) or even better, into an elevated emotional state like joy.

How quick can you get from anger, rage, frustration, or despair, back into a state of mental calmness, and emotional stability?

That is what we are here to talk about today.

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How To Feel Good

Post author By cm_admin
Post date November 18, 2025

This “strategy” is pretty simple.

And sort of easy to do.

I say “sort of” as there may be times when is harder to do, and I want to be honest with you.

And as old-matey Jim Rohn used to say: “What is easy to do, is also easy not to do“.

So, although this is not so hard, most of time, it actually needs to be undertaken, in order to have the feel-good experience.

This strategy is also free.

It doesn’t require props.

And it creates a ripple effect.

As in, in can make other people feel good too.

That’s pretty cool.

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Turn Up Your “Sense Of Humour” And You’ll Turn Down Your Stress

Post author By cm_admin
Post date September 30, 2025

I have been pondering something of late.

As you may have noticed – unless you are working on your enlightenment in the nearest mountain cave – the world is a little bit bonkers at the moment.

And to be a little more specific, sad as it is, all of us have probably personally be touched by, or clearly noticed a rise in the number of people with (to generalise) “mental health” issues or challenges.

I just did a quick search online and the estimated number of people with a mental ‘disorder’ globally, in 2019 was about 1 in 9.

Which, to tell the truth, was higher than I thought it would be.

And there are several reports of that number going up significantly from 2020-2023, due to a world event (and periphery events) we are all familiar with.

So, without getting into too much more doom and gloom, we can all acknowledge that there are a lot of people having significant challenges with life in this modern age.

The second part, to set the context of the brief conversation I want to have with you, is over the last 20-years of so, there has been so much pressure on what we can and can’t say about one another, or to one another.

This has even had an impact on what is deemed appropriate for comedians to make “jokes” about.

Anyway, my point is this…