Category: Feeling

The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly

Post author By cm_admin
Post date May 13, 2026

Just the other day I was watching Clint Eastwood’s movie Unforgiven (a movie which is actually quite deep, as opposed to just a shoot-em-up Western), and hence the heading of this article.

The title also lends itself to a reasonable exploration of this topic.

A topic, I believe if we master, can change our lives.

If done, and done well.

As with many things.

Energy in = energy out.

I think we are all pretty aware that if we want something big or transformative in our lives, it very rarely requires little to no work.

Possible, but rare.

Let’s look at a more reliable practice to help you get (exactly) what you want.

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Overcoming The Physical Effects of Anxiety

Post author By cm_admin
Post date April 7, 2026

Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy.

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Thriving In A World Gone Bonkers

Post author By cm_admin
Post date March 31, 2026

I wrote the first draft of this Newsletter as I waited at the Brisbane airport.

And before I sat down, I was not entirely sure what I was going to write about.

But I figured I would write about what might be at the forefront of people’s minds right about now.

And not just about the specifics of the shenanigans going on right now – whether that is a USA / Israel / Iran thing, or a Russian / Ukraine thing, or a Israel / Palestine thing, or a Jeffrey Epstein thing.

Or whatever it is – of the many things to choose from – that is trying to pull a lot of our attention now.

My primary interest is not in the state of affairs or even the (real “why”, I am a lot more interested in how we become the type of person who is not affected, or less affected, by WHATEVER the apparent crisis might be, regardless of how close we are or aren’t to the epicentre of the issue.

I am most interested in how we can become a powerful enough person, so we can maintain a sense of calm, clarity, stability and with a luminous mind shining brightly; REGARDLESS of the flavour of the world or local issues going on.

And even how we can get and remain in love with life, regardless of the veracity of the storms we weather.

Rather than trying to “logically” figure out why things are happening, or how they will unfold, or who is telling the truth and who is telling ‘porky pies’, which will just send us all nuts.

And is not that useful for us in our day-to-day.

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A More Effective Strategy Than “Trying to Find Yourself”

Post author By cm_admin
Post date February 18, 2026

I have coached lots of different people over the past 18 years.

Plus, I have been “coaching” myself for the last 26 years.

And something that has come up frequently in those conversations, when people reach out to me ready to do the “deeper inner work“, is their thoughts about “Who am I?”

Maybe you can relate to this.

In fact, if you ask yourself that question right now, do you receive a very coherent and clear response?

It’s actually a great question to play with.

But what I have consistently witnessed over time is that the idea of “trying to find yourself” is not the most effective Strategy.

And perhaps causes people to look in all the wrong directions.

Additionally, it doesn’t seem to tap into the most powerful parts of self.

The human being-ness of us.

One of the most powerful things we have access to is an UNIMITED potential to CREATE.

Which is our discussion point today.

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Building Emotional Fitness For Peak Performance

Post author By cm_admin
Post date November 25, 2025

I am sure that I don’t need to convince anyone that physical fitness, increases your ability to perform at your peak.

And by physical fitness I am focusing – for this example – on the cardiovascular system.

The ability to get the maximum amount of oxygen into our cells.

One measure of physical fitness is how quickly an athlete can go from an elevated heart-rate to their resting heart rate.

For example, from 200 beats per minute, to 60 beats per minute (or lower).

Sort of like returning to a state of (physical) homeostasis.

Well, just like with the physical body, we want to do the same thing with our EMOTIONS.

My definition of emotional fitness is the ability to go from an elevated emotional state (principally in a survival emotional state), back to a state of equanimity (calmness) or even better, into an elevated emotional state like joy.

How quick can you get from anger, rage, frustration, or despair, back into a state of mental calmness, and emotional stability?

That is what we are here to talk about today.

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How To Feel Good

Post author By cm_admin
Post date November 18, 2025

This “strategy” is pretty simple.

And sort of easy to do.

I say “sort of” as there may be times when is harder to do, and I want to be honest with you.

And as old-matey Jim Rohn used to say: “What is easy to do, is also easy not to do“.

So, although this is not so hard, most of time, it actually needs to be undertaken, in order to have the feel-good experience.

This strategy is also free.

It doesn’t require props.

And it creates a ripple effect.

As in, in can make other people feel good too.

That’s pretty cool.

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Turn Up Your “Sense Of Humour” And You’ll Turn Down Your Stress

Post author By cm_admin
Post date September 30, 2025

I have been pondering something of late.

As you may have noticed – unless you are working on your enlightenment in the nearest mountain cave – the world is a little bit bonkers at the moment.

And to be a little more specific, sad as it is, all of us have probably personally be touched by, or clearly noticed a rise in the number of people with (to generalise) “mental health” issues or challenges.

I just did a quick search online and the estimated number of people with a mental ‘disorder’ globally, in 2019 was about 1 in 9.

Which, to tell the truth, was higher than I thought it would be.

And there are several reports of that number going up significantly from 2020-2023, due to a world event (and periphery events) we are all familiar with.

So, without getting into too much more doom and gloom, we can all acknowledge that there are a lot of people having significant challenges with life in this modern age.

The second part, to set the context of the brief conversation I want to have with you, is over the last 20-years of so, there has been so much pressure on what we can and can’t say about one another, or to one another.

This has even had an impact on what is deemed appropriate for comedians to make “jokes” about.

Anyway, my point is this…

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Is Being Certain (all the time) What We REALLY Want?

Post author By cm_admin
Post date February 13, 2024

I was listening to someone complain the other day.

It made me think of another person I had heard complaining recently.

Unfortunately, that some one was ME.

Bugger!

But it generated a great train of thought, as it lead me to this insight.

Something I sort of knew but glossed over in the whole living life thing.

The other person (who kicked off my thinking) was complaining about how something didn’t work out exactly as they planned.

And had the hump on because of that.

Something they ‘expected’ to happen, did not happen.

And their response was to get narky.

Fair enough.

But consider this…

If everything comes to pass that you expect to come to pass, HOW FRIGGIN BORING would your life be?

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Without Doing this, Happiness is Elusive

Post author By cm_admin
Post date February 6, 2024

This might be a shorter newsletter, as the point I want to make is pretty easy to explain, and pretty easy to understand.

I am pretty sure all of us can relate to it.

But as always…

It is not just about UNDERSTANDING something; it is about DOING something with that something you are now aware of.

So here it is.

A key to happiness.

A key to making it through a tough or shitty day.

A key to making it though a batch, or bunch, of shitty days.

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How I Build Grit, Resilience and Determination

Post author By cm_admin
Post date January 30, 2024

Do you want to good news, or the bad news first?

I think most people generally go the bad news first, so here goes.

To my knowledge, there isn’t a PILL on the market that does this job effectively.

Bugger!

The good news is you can do this yourself.

And often, without costing you anything (financially).

However, there might be some cost in sweat and tears.

Double bugger!!

One of my favourite ways to do this is to undertake consciously contrived “challenges”.

And I find the most impactful challenges (i.e. long-term benefits), are the ones which are mostly mental.

Like the 3-day water-only fast that myself, and about 20 other adventurers did last week.

Total (mental) challenge.

By building our grit, resilience, determination and discipline muscles, it makes other challenges in our life – professional and personal – seem not that hard after all.

That is the payback.

And it keeps on giving.