Category: Fear

Unfortunately, This is Something We All Do Poorly

Post author By cm_admin
Post date August 28, 2026

Since a great picture paints 1000’s words, I am going to keep this very short today.

I fortunately have a gifted friend who is SO GOOD as drawing simple images, with a comic book funky style, and delivering a VERY CLEAR message.

Today’s message is also inspired by a book I am reading – called Living Beyond The Mind: The End of Personal Suffering by Troy Valencia – which delves into the teachings of yoga, Buddhism and Hinduism (plus western psychology and neuroscience).

The book goes into a lot more depth.

But today I want to focus on just one distinction.

Reinforced by my friend (Leah Pearlman’s) beautiful and poignant picture and depiction below.

We, most likely, tend to worry way too much about things which never happen.

Hands up if that applies to you?

I was certainly a serial worrier in my younger years (less so now).

Which generally serves a useful purpose, if done for a minute or two (maximum).

Worrying longer than about 2-mins and the benefits start to drop, until you cross the neutral line, and then come into the realm of it being very, very UN-USEFUL.

So, feast your eyes on the 1,000 word message below (thanks Leah), and I will join you on the other side.

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If Great Mental Health and Physical Health is a Priority, You Need to Watch This Short Video

Post author By cm_admin
Post date August 11, 2026

In this months episode of TIPS, TOOLS & STRATEGIES, I share a highly impactful insight, which I didn’t just pluck out of my butt last week; but have synthetized and formulated over 27-years of studying physical and mental health.

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Discover Anxiety’s True Cost and the Solution

Post author By cm_admin
Post date June 16, 2026

Let’s just dive straight in.

I am at the airport lounge in Melbourne, on my way back to Bali, and my airport Lounge pass gets me 3hrs, so I want to get this Newsletter sorted chop-chop, and then get myself sorted with some yummy food I saw on the way in. 😉

The key messages of today’s article are simply:

1. There is a REAL cost to Anxiety (or any equivalent emotion that disrupts the nervous system).

2. There are great solutions (one with over 300 research studies validating its effectiveness).

When we truly understand what something is costing us, rather than a cursory understanding, it finally gives us the motivation and commitment to actually address it front on.

Rather than having its slow burn taking us off track.

Like an airplane, which is travelling from Melbourne to Bali, if the plotted course is deviated by just a degree or 2, you don’t end up in Denpasar (your intended destination), but probably land in one of the remote jungles on Papua New Guinea.

The same in life.

If anxiety causes you to go off course just a little bit, it ultimately alters your Destiny.

Let me tell you WHY anxiety throws you off course.

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Are You Tapping Into The True Healing Potential of Your Heart?

Post author By cm_admin
Post date April 21, 2026

I have been doing loads of deep thinking, over the last bunch of years.

Primarily on what does it take for us to truly thrive, and experience deep joy, wonder and amazement; when things around us might be a bit sh#t?

How can we transcend the drama’s playing out around us?

So, what we experience of the world is not of a low vibrational nature.

How can we experience deep joy, without having to ingest something, or distract ourselves, or “buy” something to make us feel better, or have someone else tell us we are worthy of feeling good?

How can we feel joy deep in our bones, regardless of external influences?

That is what interests and fascinates me.

And you know what?

Unsurprisingly, I keep coming back to the HEART, and the power of the heart.

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When Pride is Not A Good Thing

Post author By cm_admin
Post date November 21, 2023

Extract from 18 Ways We Make Life Way Harder Than It Needs To Be by Carl Massy (WAY 16)

“Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst, and cold.”

Thomas Jefferson (US President and primary Author of US Declaration of Independence)

I think most of us were taught that ‘pride’ is a good thing. To feel proud for who and what we are. To take pride in what we do. To take pride in what we have achieved – be it over the course of our lives or over the last few weeks working on a new project at work, which we totally nailed!

So yes, pride can be a good thing. But like many things, there can be another side to it, when taken to extreme. It is like all great virtues. They are great when they are applied in a conscious self-aware way. Too much bravery and someone can become reckless. Too much loyalty and someone can be taken advantage of or stuck in something for longer than is healthy. Too much single-mindedness and someone can meander down the wrong path. Too much flexibility and someone can be all over the place.

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This Can Break The Dam Wall of Worry

Post author By cm_admin
Post date October 10, 2023

This article is for anyone that does, or is currently doing, the WORRY thing.

It’s a story about what I recently did (about 30 mins before writing) to break the dam of worry that had been looming over me for days.

If you read last weeks post, I spoke about getting triggered putting up ‘For Sale’ signs around my neighborhood, as we are in the process of selling our house in Bali (while doing a build at the same time).

So I am juggling a few balls in the air.

Which I am sure that you can relate to.

I am 100% sure.

Rarely have we got all of our ducks lined up so we can kick back with our feet up, and be in blissful rapture.

The price of wanting to live an extraordinary life is there will be a bit of resistance, disruption, set-back and frustration.

It’s the ticket price to play life at the next level.

So I know that you know what I am talking about.

Life can get pretty overwhelming at times.

And then we can do this worry thing.

Which I like to thank my mum for teaching me.

She taught me well.

Just joking mum!!

(Sort of).

So that takes me to one of my main points of today’s ‘lessons’.

Drum roll please maestro…

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How to Stop Getting Triggered

Post author By cm_admin
Post date October 3, 2023

One of the primary things I do when working with new clients is have them record when they get TRIGGERED.

This information is gold dust.

Outstanding feedback.

BUT…only if you do something with it.

We all get triggered.

But IT is the wisest among us who learn from it, in order to grow and evolve and to not get triggered (as much or not at all) next time.

Firstly let me define what I mean by ‘Getting Triggered‘.

It is essentially any time where we are reactively taken out of an elevated emotional state, neutral state or homeostasis, and dropped into a survival emotional state. Essentially the amygdala has determined there is some sort of physical threat, so it activates the sympathetic nervous system, and we have a physiological fight, flight or freeze response. This does not include automatic responses to real physical threats.

Sometimes we are ‘positively’ triggered and that is awesome and another great thing to learn from.

Thumbs up and now do more of that.

However, for this article (and your ongoing well-being) I am more interested in the ‘negative‘ triggers, and the bigger the trigger, the more (loving) attention we need to give them.

Examples include: getting triggered by an email, getting triggered while driving on the road, getting triggered by your partner or friends, getting triggered by people wearing face masks while alone on a beach, getting triggered by being told ‘no’, getting triggered by people riding motorbikes through intersections while texting on their phones, etc..

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A Sneak Peak Inside My Next Book

Post author By cm_admin
Post date September 26, 2023

I have been threatening to send you a sample from my upcoming book, so here is the PREFACE, which gives you a sense of where I am going with the book, plus I get to share with you some of my (mis)adventures and insights along the way.

Please enjoy.

PREFACE

“It is through science that we prove, but through intuition that we discover.”

Henry Poincare (French Mathematician)

Have you ever been to Bali (Indonesia)?

What a magical place. Beaches. Balinese massages. Sunshine. Great surfing. Outstanding food (did anyone tell you Bali is a food mecca?). Beautiful local people. Such an amazing place to relocate to, in order to start the next phase of your life journey and professional transition. What could possibly go wrong?

And yes, I was chuckling as I wrote that line, as I am sure at some points in your life you have uttered those very same magical and fateful words. “What could possibly go wrong?”

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You Can’t Do This and Expect to be Happy

Post author By cm_admin
Post date June 13, 2023

Do you want to be happy?

Or happier?

I am pretty sure – about 99.999% – that your response to those questions is a resounding “OF COURSE!”.

So today we are going to talk about one thing not to do if you want to have a happy life existence.

It’s a pretty simple concept (like most things I teach), but it has major ramifications.

The image that comes to mind when I think about this topic is a wheelbarrow I was using the other day, while hauling bricks.

The wheel was a little wobbly (out of alignment) and it was WAY HARD to keep things moving in the direction of the drop-off point.

At one point the wheelbarrow veered off to the side and I lost the load (and nearly tore a muscle or three); so I had to start again from scratch.

TOO much effort required.

So what was the solution?

Simple.

The wheelbarrow needed the nuts on the axle tightened, so the wheel would come back into alignment and perform the role it was designed for.

Moving smoothly, in a straight line.

When things are out of alignment, life gets tougher.

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The Consequences of (Emotional) Junk in the Trunk

Post author By cm_admin
Post date May 2, 2023

This is probably one of the most important articles I have written for awhile.

It was inspired by another book I recently read (no surprises there) from Dr Sarno.

The book is called ‘The Divided Mind‘.

It delves into the relationship between the mind, body, emotions and their inter-relationship.

There was also a recent session with a client where I was showing on a whiteboard the consequences – in day-to-day living – if we have too much junk in the trunk.

Or what I am collectively calling suppressed and repressed emotions.

I won’t be writing too deeply into the psychological aspects, but we will go deep enough to make this practical for you.

However I feel I ought prefix that this is REALLY important stuff to know.

What you do with this knowing is then up to you.