Category: Belief

Texting, The Subconscious, And Relationship “Challenges”

Post author By cm_admin
Post date July 14, 2026
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Today is a bit of a “Case Study”.

It’s based on a client who stayed in our Tiny House, who we got to know quite well.

Plus, due to my partner – Ferry – not being big on small talk and loving to get right into the juicy stuff…like “How are you actually doing with your relationships?”.

And for me, it was a chance to look at patterns (which is my jam).

We were asking questions of this person – who we will now refer to as “M” – about how their dating was going in Bali?

And I was most interested – as I am – to the psychology at play when it comes to interacting with others, and dating in general.

What was working and what was not?

And if something was not working; why not?

Keeping in mind there is so much subconscious stuff (which drives behaviour) than can trip us up – unknowingly – when it comes to interpersonal interactions.

What is grossly OBVIOUS to an outside observer, can be completely hidden to the individual experiencing it.

So, let me share with you how someone’s “texting speed” almost caused things to implode. (Which you might also be able to relate to).

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7 Things I Used To Think Were “Facts”, But Have Now Changed My Mind On

Post author By cm_admin
Post date March 17, 2026

One of the things I talk about when it comes to having a powerful mind is mental flexibility.

Being able to see things differently.

To change your mind.

Even radically.

It might even mean holding two opposing points of view in mind, and seeing partial truths in each of them, and not being overwhelmed; because you are unable to figure out a singular truth.

Take the example of Creation Vs Evolution.

They both have pro’s and con’s to them, but neither (in my mind) is an absolute fact, and by doing so, I open my mind to a 3rd (or 4th) possibility, which is a combination, plus a little bit of something else (yet to be figured out).

I have also never been much of a fan of being given only 2 choices.

Which essentially says if you don’t believe one, then you MUST believe the other.

That is a great recipe for getting hoodwinked, and not seeing the (much) bigger picture.

All that to say, keep an open mind, and feel free to change your mind (even radically), if new, more compelling information becomes available.

Like in the aforementioned case, evolution might apply to a lot of plants and animals, but it does not account or explain the apparent “big leap” in homo sapiens mental capacities about 200,000 years ago.

Apparently, Charles Darwin’s co-author of “On the Origin of Species” (Alfred Wallace), 10-years after its publication, suggested that the theory they had developed could not apply to homo sapiens.

Interesting.

But that is a whole new conversation, for another time.

For now, let’s see what I have flipped the script on.

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What I Learned from Gordon Ramsay

Post author By cm_admin
Post date March 10, 2026

And right from the get go, let me make it clear what I did not learn.

I did not learn how to cook.

So, sorry, but there will be no kitchen hacks or fab recipes in this article.

You see, I do know my place (it is not in the kitchen).

Ferry is the foodie, who LOVES cooking, and even loves cooking for me.

So, why would I waste time and energy on something, which someone else loves, and also makes them happy?

Instead, I put my energy into trying to understand the psychology and “why” of things.

Why does A + B = G?

In this article, I decided to share my psychoanalyzing of Gordon Ramsay, from his Netflix show “Being Gordon Ramsay“.

It was not only entertaining, but deeply informative for me, as I asked myself the question, “I wonder why he does that?“.

So, let me share with you what I learned.

But, before I go on, I am going to assume that you know who Gordon Ramsay is.

But, just in case you are a hermit, he is one of the most prolific and successful chefs on the planet with multiple restaurants (over 90), a bunch of Michelin Stars along the way, numerous successful television series and documentaries, a prolific impact and following on Social Media platforms, and a worldwide recognizable and impactful brand identity.

I am also VERY clear that Gordon Ramsay is no saint, has had a very colorful and checkered life and career, is obnoxious and abrasive at times, swears like a trooper, and rubs a lot of people up the wrong way.

This is not about promoting him, but trying to understand what drove him, and also what stabilized him, so he did not take a wrecking ball to his whole life (as many others on the pursuit of fame and fortune have).

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How to Release Chronic Pain and Anxiety

Post author By cm_admin
Post date February 24, 2026

I have one Goal today.

If I achieve this one thing, I know it will change your life.

I am also here with an overlaying goal with every newsletter I send you – to EMPOWER you.

Let me tell you my specific goal today.

I want you to read or listen to a book.

A book which I believe is in the TOP 5 of the 500+ books I have read over the last 26 years on physical and mental health.

For insight, impact, and practical capacity to change your life.

The book is “Mind Your Body“, by Nicole J Sachs, who is a psychotherapist that worked with Dr Sarno (more on him later) and has personally reversed decades-worth of multiple chronic symptoms in her body.

She has also enabled 100’s and 1000’s of other people to do the same.

Through her direct clinical work, her books, and her Podcast (A Cure for Chronic Pain).

And by the way, the reason I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE her book is because she has expanded on, synthesized, and broadened the leading-edge work of Dr Sarno, around the TRUE causes of chronic pain in our bodies.

The book is also packed with real-world cases of people with multiple chronic illness symptoms with years of pain, $1000’s and $1000’s of dollars spent, and complete loss of faith in the modern medical system (whose most common professional advice was “take these pills and learn to live with the pain, discomfort and embarrassment”).

If you trust me to offer you good, no-strings-attached advice, then just go an order the book now (Amazon). Or, if you need more convincing, read on.

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How We Mess With Reality, And Not In A Good Way

Post author By cm_admin
Post date October 14, 2025

Since a “picture tells 1000 words” I figured I only need to write a handful of words today.

Which is good for all of us.

The other evening, I observed this “phenomenon“.

As you know, I live in a Bali village (not in a straw hut, but an actual house).

And in said village there are LOTS of ceremonies, celebrations (weddings, births, funerals, etc.), band practice (preparing for celebrations), roosters, dogs, and most recently a gaggle of ducks.

So, at times it can be a wee bit noisy.

The other night I was observing mine, and my partners REACTION to “loud noise”.

This time it was band practice, and it started about 8:30pm, when I am generally winding down for the day.

I felt myself getting a bit worked up.

I also noticed Ferry going up a few more notches higher than me.

But then I reminded myself of something I already know.

It is the STORIES we tell about the reality of an experience, which determines the MEANING of the experience, and therefore our body’s ultimate response.

The lightbulb went on, and my level of bothersomeness went down.

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Is Your Mindset Bias Leaning The Right Way?

Post author By cm_admin
Post date October 7, 2025

Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy.

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Are Your Programs Helping You or Harming You?

Post author By cm_admin
Post date September 9, 2025

Enjoy.

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16 Years Coaching and This is Still The #1 Root Cause

Post author By cm_admin
Post date February 27, 2024

For over 16 years I have been Coaching.

Essentially helping people get from where they are to where they want to be.

And figuring out what is in their way.

That is, what might be their greatest obstacles.

Real and PERCEIVED.

Is the obstacle a poor understanding of what they want?

Are they unclear of where they are starting from (i.e. don’t ‘know thyself’ so well)?

Is there a skill gap?

Etc.

Of all the things that disrupt people from navigating life in a meaningful, fulfilling and joyful way, something keeps showing up as numero uno Root Cause of Trouble (with a capital ‘T’) in our lives.

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This Can Break The Dam Wall of Worry

Post author By cm_admin
Post date October 10, 2023

This article is for anyone that does, or is currently doing, the WORRY thing.

It’s a story about what I recently did (about 30 mins before writing) to break the dam of worry that had been looming over me for days.

If you read last weeks post, I spoke about getting triggered putting up ‘For Sale’ signs around my neighborhood, as we are in the process of selling our house in Bali (while doing a build at the same time).

So I am juggling a few balls in the air.

Which I am sure that you can relate to.

I am 100% sure.

Rarely have we got all of our ducks lined up so we can kick back with our feet up, and be in blissful rapture.

The price of wanting to live an extraordinary life is there will be a bit of resistance, disruption, set-back and frustration.

It’s the ticket price to play life at the next level.

So I know that you know what I am talking about.

Life can get pretty overwhelming at times.

And then we can do this worry thing.

Which I like to thank my mum for teaching me.

She taught me well.

Just joking mum!!

(Sort of).

So that takes me to one of my main points of today’s ‘lessons’.

Drum roll please maestro…

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A Practical Conversation on ‘Spirituality

Post author By cm_admin
Post date August 15, 2023

You know I like to keep things practical.

I am about doing more of the stuff that uplifts us, makes us more powerful, capable, expansive and competent; and doing less of the stuff that holds us back, diminishes us, constricts us, and triggers our survival emotional states.

So I consider the topic of ‘spirituality’ and a ‘spiritual practice’ through that lens.

And here is how the conversation / riff went.

This conversation became a part of my resilience program on how to become a natural Superhuman (a combination of Leader, Warrior and Sage).

I am interested to hear what it brings up for you, and do send me any questions you might have.

You can watch the video – just click on the image below to watch it on YouTube below – or if prefer to listen to the audio version, click HERE.