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What I Learned from Gordon Ramsay

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Post date March 10, 2026
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And right from the get go, let me make it clear what I did not learn.

I did not learn how to cook.

So, sorry, but there will be no kitchen hacks or fab recipes in this article.

You see, I do know my place (it is not in the kitchen).

Ferry is the foodie, who LOVES cooking, and even loves cooking for me.

So, why would I waste time and energy on something, which someone else loves, and also makes them happy?

Instead, I put my energy into trying to understand the psychology and “why” of things.

Why does A + B = G?

In this article, I decided to share my psychoanalyzing of Gordon Ramsay, from his Netflix show “Being Gordon Ramsay“.

It was not only entertaining, but deeply informative for me, as I asked myself the question, “I wonder why he does that?“.

So, let me share with you what I learned.

But, before I go on, I am going to assume that you know who Gordon Ramsay is.

But, just in case you are a hermit, he is one of the most prolific and successful chefs on the planet with multiple restaurants (over 90), a bunch of Michelin Stars along the way, numerous successful television series and documentaries, a prolific impact and following on Social Media platforms, and a worldwide recognizable and impactful brand identity.

I am also VERY clear that Gordon Ramsay is no saint, has had a very colorful and checkered life and career, is obnoxious and abrasive at times, swears like a trooper, and rubs a lot of people up the wrong way.

This is not about promoting him, but trying to understand what drove him, and also what stabilized him, so he did not take a wrecking ball to his whole life (as many others on the pursuit of fame and fortune have).

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Strategies to Overcome OVERWHELM

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Post date March 3, 2026
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Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy.

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How to Release Chronic Pain and Anxiety

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Post date February 24, 2026
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I have one Goal today.

If I achieve this one thing, I know it will change your life.

I am also here with an overlaying goal with every newsletter I send you – to EMPOWER you.

Let me tell you my specific goal today.

I want you to read or listen to a book.

A book which I believe is in the TOP 5 of the 500+ books I have read over the last 26 years on physical and mental health.

For insight, impact, and practical capacity to change your life.

The book is “Mind Your Body“, by Nicole J Sachs, who is a psychotherapist that worked with Dr Sarno (more on him later) and has personally reversed decades-worth of multiple chronic symptoms in her body.

She has also enabled 100’s and 1000’s of other people to do the same.

Through her direct clinical work, her books, and her Podcast (A Cure for Chronic Pain).

And by the way, the reason I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE her book is because she has expanded on, synthesized, and broadened the leading-edge work of Dr Sarno, around the TRUE causes of chronic pain in our bodies.

The book is also packed with real-world cases of people with multiple chronic illness symptoms with years of pain, $1000’s and $1000’s of dollars spent, and complete loss of faith in the modern medical system (whose most common professional advice was “take these pills and learn to live with the pain, discomfort and embarrassment”).

If you trust me to offer you good, no-strings-attached advice, then just go an order the book now (Amazon). Or, if you need more convincing, read on.

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A More Effective Strategy Than “Trying to Find Yourself”

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Post date February 18, 2026
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I have coached lots of different people over the past 18 years.

Plus, I have been “coaching” myself for the last 26 years.

And something that has come up frequently in those conversations, when people reach out to me ready to do the “deeper inner work“, is their thoughts about “Who am I?”

Maybe you can relate to this.

In fact, if you ask yourself that question right now, do you receive a very coherent and clear response?

It’s actually a great question to play with.

But what I have consistently witnessed over time is that the idea of “trying to find yourself” is not the most effective Strategy.

And perhaps causes people to look in all the wrong directions.

Additionally, it doesn’t seem to tap into the most powerful parts of self.

The human being-ness of us.

One of the most powerful things we have access to is an UNIMITED potential to CREATE.

Which is our discussion point today.

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My Top 5 Books From 2025: Increasing Knowledge And Insight

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Post date February 10, 2026
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I must admit, I had a really hard time selecting my Top 5 books of 2025, so I added a few extra’s beyond the 5.

I am also reading an EXCELLENT book at the moment, which expands on Dr Sarno’s work on what causes pain, chronic pain, and a whole shopping list of other debilitating symptoms.

The book is called Mind Your Body by Nicole S. Sacks, who also has a podcast on the topic of chronic pain, called The Cure For Chronic Pain.

After almost 27 years of reading about, researching, and writing about, physical and mental health, I can say that she is pretty much bang on with her understanding and teachings about the actual “root cause” of so much chronic pain.

Check it out.

And just before I started reading Mind Your Body, I had finished another great book called Germs Are Not Our Enemy by naturopathic doctor Marizelle Arce.

It comes from the perspective of Terrain Theory, which has been disputing the validity of Germ Theory for well over 150 years.

Terrain Theory makes a lot more real-world and practical sense than Germ Theory (with its ludicrous idea that a sterile environment, free of microorganisms is healthiest for us, when there are more micro-organisms in the body than there are cells (i.e. > 50 Trillion)). Huh?!?!

Anyway, that is a topic for another day.

Also, if there are any books you have read in 2025, which caused a major Knowledge spike for you, please do share.

And now let’s see who the winners were, shall we?

Enjoy.

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What to Do When Triggered

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Post date February 3, 2026
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Enjoy.

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The Power of Strategic and Mindful Transitioning

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Post date January 27, 2026
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I recently got off a Podcast interview (Sandcast), with a client of mine who is transitioning out of a professional Beach Volleyball career.

The conversation was extremely insightful.

(I will share it with you once he posts it)

We talked about him transitioning out of elite sport into “what’s next?“.

However, when it comes to “transitioning” (and doing it well), it applies to us all.

Some transitions are more monumental.

And some transitions are at the very basic daily level.

For instance, I have worked with a lot of clients over the years who have been REALLY BAD at switching off from work when they get home.

Essentially transitioning from “work mode” to “family mode“.

Often it just doesn’t happen at all.

Actually, you need to actively and consciously do something (let’s call it a mindful transition), to adapt most effectively to a new environment.

How are you at “switching off” after work?

The more monumental transitions might be – using a personal example – transitioning from being an Olympic Games bomb management expert and security consultant (working for the man, literally ;-)); to being a Life Coach in Bali, working for myself, and not really having much of an idea how to go about it.

Regardless of the size or complexity of the transition, the way you do it matters.

Even in yoga, there is conscious attention given to how you transition from one pose to another, because the yogis realised its importance.

Which takes me to the key point of this conversation.

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What Is “Really” Holding You Back

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Post date January 20, 2026
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As you may, or may not know, I have been Coaching for over 18 years now.

When I have a new client contact me, I ask them to complete a (very) detailed questionnaire.

I question what events have shaped their current reality; what they do or don’t think they have control of; what they really want in life; and what they think may be holding them back.

It’s the last question I am most interested in today.

What people “believe” is holding them back, from greater happiness, joy, health, success, etc..

There is often a common theme.

And many people think if only they just worked harder on this one thing, or had more of this one thing in their bag of tricks, they would be way happier, successful and fulfilled.

In my experience, what people think is the major DIFFERENCE MAKER in success is the wrong thing.

Through no real fault of their own.

It is just what so many people have been led to believe.

Whether through bad advice from “experts” or marketing messages, or pure baloney peddled on their Instagram feed by “Influencers” (spinning worldly advice – with no context – in a about minute).

So, my theory is that many people (maybe most) are taught the wrong thing.

Let me explain.