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Choice Decision Making Emotional Optimum Health Problem Stress

Emotional Eating Does Not Solve The Root Cause

In order to keep these conversations with you relevant, I like to draw on real-life experiences I am exposed to (generally with my coaching clients).

This was as a result of a conversation with a client the other day.

The context is they wanted to better understand why (exactly) – when they are upset – they quaff a couple of glasses of wine, while snacking thorough a bunch of chocolate bars.

I think we might all identify this as ’emotional eating’.

You experience a negative emotional state, which leads to binge eating.

And unfortunately, the binge eating generally does not involve carrot or celery sticks and a homemade organic dip.

It is most often high calorie, low nutrient, foods.

Why? Why? Why?

And what to do?

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Choice consciousness Feeling Growth Life Lessons Personality Perspective

Yep. Change is Hard. But..

The first thing with change or transformation is to first acknowledge that to do so, it is very likely, it may be HARD.

But here is the thing.

We don’t want to make it HARDER than it needs to be.

That doesn’t make sense, and who wants to tick that box?

Not me, and probably not you either.

So let’s agree that change, especially of the big kind, is likely to be HARD; but let’s see how to make sure isn’t HARDER than it needs to be.

First, let’s look at why change is pretty damn hard, a lot of the time.

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Choice consciousness Growth Life Lessons Money Self Love Success

Pay Yourself First

Do you agree that this seems like a pretty good idea?

Pay yourself first, and then pay others with what is left over.

I first heard the idea about 20 years ago when I read The Richest Man in Babylon. Given that it was 20-years ago, I remember very little specifically about the book, apart from the idea of FIRST taking a percentage of your income for yourself (I think it was 10%) and then you can pay out the remainder to ‘others’.

And just to be clear from the outset.

This is not the article about how to make lots of $$$$$.

Sorry.

I am drawing on that philosophy, and mixing it with a conversation I had down the beach with a great couple who also happen to own a great Korean restaurant in Pererenan, Bali (which makes a yummy Bibimbap), and which I feel deserves a plug (Soogi Roll).

So, we are not going to talk money, but we are going to be talking of a greater currency called: LIFE FORCE.

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Choice Decision Making Goal Setting Tips Success Time

A Super Effective Life Master Plan Practice

This is ESSENTIAL when it comes to the fulfillment of your Life Master Plan.

It is also essential if you want to have a lifestyle experience, which is in alignment with your actual MOST DESIRED Lifestyle.

It is also essential if you don’t want to get lost on your life path, or follow a path that is unfulfilling, or even painful.

But here is the thing.

It is a great thing to come up with a Life Master Plan, but how do you make sure you stay on track???

Or know when you might need a course correction asap.

Here is a common occurrence with my clients.

They (people) stay in un-fun, unfulfilling, crappy, soul destroying, disruptive, painful, and emotionally draining WAY LONGER than is necessary, intelligent or good for them and their physical and mental health.

Firstly, WHY??

And then, HOW do we make sure we are not one of those statistics?

Please read on.

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Choice Decision Making Growth Life Lessons Problem Stress

Best Steps to Overcoming Obstacles

Today we are going to talk about how you can overcome any obstacles in your life, in the best way (i.e. best result with the least energy).

I LOVE overcoming obstacles.

And probably why I was in the Royal Australian Engineers, as an officer for 14 years. We were taught a lot about how to overcome obstacles on the battlefield. It definitely involved some exploding stuff, but it also came done to our CREATIVITY. Why expend more effort and resources than you need to (or have at your disposal).

So that’s our focus today.

How can you effectively overcome obstacles with the least amount of effort?

This is the NUMBER 1 thing I do when coaching. Help people overcome obstacles, so they reach the destination of their choosing – in the best mental and physical health.

There is no point in being so battered and bruised from getting through an obstacle, that you don’t have the energy to go on.

We are about smarter, not harder.

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Choice consciousness Growth Life Purpose Meditation Perspective

One Thing That Makes Everything in Life Better

I have been threatening to talk about this subject for awhile now.

It is a topic I am passionate about, very familiar with, and I see the greatest results from (for me and 100’s of clients over the years).

In ALL parts of someone’s life.

It is this thing called…

CONSCIOUSNESS.

It is like the best fertilizer, ever made, which makes anything it lands on in your garden grow like it had a mind of its own.

Seriously. It is like rocket fuel.

The smooth, powerful, clean and highly responsive kind.

So I am going to talk about why I believe adding consciousness to anything in your life enhances it exponentially, and then how to increase our consciousness, plus I might have to start with explaining what it is.

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Acceptance Choice consciousness Growth Life Lessons Negative Emotions Problem Relationship

How to Turn Negative Events (& People) into a Positive

TURNING OUR PAST INTO WISDOM

Lately I have been going even deeper into the practical work of Dr Joe Dispenza (teacher, neuroscientist, author and he who is challenging what is ‘normal’).

I am watching testimonials, listening to Q&A sessions, doing more meditations, and re-reading his books (e.g. Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself).

One of his testimonials is of a woman healing herself from the multiple sclerosis (MS). Pretty epic. Plus a guy got feeling back into his fingers after 48 years. The list goes on, and on…(there are over 600 testimonials).

One of Dr Joe’s quotes is:

“The past without the emotion is (potential) wisdom.”

I added the ‘potential’ word as I feel that having wisdom is different from the right application of wisdom. It takes consciousness to make potential wisdom into REAL WORLD wisdom that leads to a positive outcome.

So with Dr Joe as our inspiration and frame of reference, I want to look at how we can change our past NEGATIVE stuff (and the emotions that come with it), into WISDOM. Plus fuel for our EVOLUTION.

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Choice consciousness Emotional Feeling Growth Honesty Perspective Stress

Is Your Emotional Fuel Healing or Harming You?

Let’s get straight into this conversation, starting with some context.

Do all petrochemical fuels, derived from oil, burn the same? Do they all burn as cleanly as each other? Do some burn faster or slower? Do some produce more heat than others? Do some fuels leave a cloud of black (polluting) smoke in their wake?

Let’s acknowledge that not all fuels burn the same, even if they derive from the same source.

So today, we are going to talk about the FUEL of our emotions.

And this is inspired by a good mate of mine who I have known for decades, and has had recent heart surgery.

He has always been great in the fitness and nutrition department, but as I highlight in the subtitle of The Guidebook to Optimum Health, exercise and nutrition alone are not enough for optimum health.

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Choice consciousness Forgiveness Growth Life Lessons Personality Perspective Self Esteem Self Love

Why Trying to Prove Yourself May be Costing You!

Have you ever been guilty of doing something to PROVE something to someone else; as opposed to doing it because you really wanted to?

I have no doubts we have all been down that path.

Today I want to take you on an exploratory journey down this proving path to see what it might be costing you in your life, and in relationship to your FULFILLMENT, HAPPINESS, and EVOLUTION.

Are you ready for this wee inner journey?

Then, let the lesson begin.

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Choice consciousness Life Lessons Perspective Relationship

It is Time for Some Relationship Tips

I suspect you are unlikely to guess what my #1 Relationship Tip is.

A bit of back ground first, so we have some ‘context’.

(Side Tip: The context – also known as the bigger picture – is so important when it comes to communication, and even making high quality decisions. Getting clear of the context first, is a great habit to have)

So…

I was hanging out with a colleague the other day, who is high-vibe, and also a fan of Dr Joe Dispenza’s work (which helps be a high-vibe person), and they mentioned something about me and the books I have written (5 and counting). They also mentioned it would be great if I created a program on how to write and publish a book – so keep an eye out for that, as I LOVE to teach what I have learned along the way.

Now a bit over 10 years ago I set one of those big hairy audacious goals. I committed to writing 5 books in 10 years.

And ticked it off in 2020.

I had also decided to write The Guidebook Series, with a book on each of the following subjects: happiness, health, success, relationships and spirituality.

I actually wrote the first 3 books and then took a detour when I got to a ‘guidebook’ on how to create amazing relationships.

Do you want to know WHY … and what it confirmed for me?