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Belief consciousness Life Lessons Perspective

Texting, The Subconscious, And Relationship “Challenges” 

Today is a bit of a “Case Study”.

It’s based on a client who stayed in our Tiny House, who we got to know quite well. 

Plus, due to my partner – Ferry – not being big on small talk and loving to get right into the juicy stuff…like “How are you actually doing with your relationships?”. 

And for me, it was a chance to look at patterns (which is my jam). 

We were asking questions of this person – who we will now refer to as “M” – about how their dating was going in Bali? 

And I was most interested – as I am – to the psychology at play when it comes to interacting with others, and dating in general.

What was working and what was not? 

And if something was not working; why not? 

Keeping in mind there is so much subconscious stuff (which drives behaviour) than can trip us up – unknowingly – when it comes to interpersonal interactions. 

What is grossly OBVIOUS to an outside observer, can be completely hidden to the individual experiencing it. 

So, let me share with you how someone’s “texting speed” almost caused things to implode. (Which you might also be able to relate to).

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Choice Perspective Success

The Best Tool to Generate ABUNDANCE

Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy. 

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Growth Rest Stress

The Block to Good Sleep and Motivation is The Same Culprit

Now, not everyone has sleep issues. 

Well, not all the time. 

But I am pretty sure that we have all, at times, struggled to get to sleep (and stay asleep), and perhaps woken up feel crappers. 

And for some people, getting a bad night’s sleep, has become a full-time occupation. 

Sadly too, a lot of the “solutions” offered by the medical cartel system, are pharmaceutical-based (meaning synthetic) which often come with some pretty dodgy side effects. 

Therefore, I want to offer you a solution with no negative side effects, is easy to learn and do, costs you approximately $0, and takes about 8-mins. 

Interested? 

The other topic for today is when we lack energy, or what we might call “motivation“, and are not sure how to ramp it up, or get it back. 

And no, the solution is not an extra hit of a double expresso.

The downside with using caffeine to power-up is that it just delays the mental crash, and doesn’t deal with any root cause issues. 

It also becomes a bit of a crutch, where you get to the stage where you might lose your sh#t, if a decent coffee is not forth-coming, or heaven forbid, unavailable. 

My preferred life strategy is to not depend on any crutches. 

And have strategies which need no props at all. 

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Choice consciousness Growth

You Can’t Access True Wisdom Without “Fixing” This First

Over the last few weeks, I have been building the pieces of a central theme.

The theme is essentially to make you more POWERFUL. 

More wise. 

More capable. 

More resilient. 

More calm. 

And less impacted, or adversely affected, by the inevitable curve balls that come your way. 

I am also a believer in there being a disruption to the collective consciousness (i.e. the energy and frequency of humanity and the planet), which makes us all a little more amped, unstable, and with a less-coherent personal field of energy. 

With political polarization, mixed agenda’s, war’s, oppression of people, rising prices, new taxes, changing rules and regulations, markets confused by the introduction of AI, rising pollution, and a whole bunch of other stuff from your personal list; one of the outcomes is an over-stimulation of the nervous system. 

What I call a “jacked” nervous system. 

Something I find extremely common with the vast majority of my clients (before we start doing the work).

And something that impedes them from being their 2.0 Version. 

I also say often to my clients that what self-care worked in 2019, will not help you thrive in 2026 and beyond. 

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Choice Emotional Fear Feeling Pain

Discover Anxiety’s True Cost and the Solution

Let’s just dive straight in. 

I am at the airport lounge in Melbourne, on my way back to Bali, and my airport Lounge pass gets me 3hrs, so I want to get this Newsletter sorted chop-chop, and then get myself sorted with some yummy food I saw on the way in. 😉

The key messages of today’s article are simply: 

1. There is a REAL cost to Anxiety (or any equivalent emotion that disrupts the nervous system). 

2. There are great solutions (one with over 300 research studies validating its effectiveness). 

When we truly understand what something is costing us, rather than a cursory understanding, it finally gives us the motivation and commitment to actually address it front on. 

Rather than having its slow burn taking us off track. 

Like an airplane, which is travelling from Melbourne to Bali, if the plotted course is deviated by just a degree or 2, you don’t end up in Denpasar (your intended destination), but probably land in one of the remote jungles on Papua New Guinea. 

The same in life. 

If anxiety causes you to go off course just a little bit, it ultimately alters your Destiny. 

Let me tell you WHY anxiety throws you off course. 

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consciousness Emotional Negative Emotions Overwhelm Stress

The Best Stress Management Tool In My Bag of Tricks

There are a few very valid reasons why this tool is one of my favourite, and most effective. 

They include: 

  • It is really easy to learn (we are talking 5-10 mins and for ages 6+).
  • It is FREE. 
  • It goes everywhere with you, all the time. 
  • There are no props required. 
  • It is really simple to do. 

But most of all…IT WORKS!!!

Imagine a stress management tool like that. 

Learning it and using it would have to be a “no-brainer”. 

Well, it is for me. 

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Choice consciousness Emotional

Understanding And Overcoming “People Pleasing” 

I am always on the lookout for relevant topics. 

Recently I was working with a client and a particular “topic” came up, and then 2 days later, the very same topic came up from a very different source.

I figure if 2 people in a short time are having an issue with “people pleasing“, there are bound to be a lot more people in the same situation.

And the focus will be on making this (as always) super practical.

In my mind, there is a HUGE difference between doing things because your big beautiful heart wants to, and doing things out of FEAR because of some unknown, subconscious program playing in the back of your mind. 

Essentially running a script like: “If you DO NOT people please then bad things will happen, or you won’t feel good about yourself“.

It is like the HEART-initiated pleasing others elevates you, while the HEAD-initiated (due to untrue stories) takes you down. 

Let’s explore this a little deeper.  

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consciousness Decision Making Emotional Perspective

When A Virtue Like “Loyalty” Stops Being A Healthy Virtue

This article is inspired by a Coaching session I had the other day. 

Which has come up with a number of my clients. 

There is a great message I want to share. 

Not just in relation to Loyalty (which we will go deeper into), but all virtues in general. 

Hands up if you think Loyalty is a great virtue? 

Chances are most people would raise their hand. 

Unless, you are now getting a bit suspicious about a trick question I may be asking you. 

In that case, you might be gingerly raising your hand, slowly, so you can pull it down again, if you figure out where I am taking things. 

Me personally (based on what I know and have experienced); I am not such a big fan of Loyalty if it comes in the 2-dimensional version, and not the 3-dimensional version; and even then, I reckon there are better virtues to hang your hat on. 

Let me explain.  

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consciousness Feeling Perspective

The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly

Just the other day I was watching Clint Eastwood’s movie Unforgiven (a movie which is actually quite deep, as opposed to just a shoot-em-up Western), and hence the heading of this article. 

The title also lends itself to a reasonable exploration of this topic. 

A topic, I believe if we master, can change our lives. 

If done, and done well. 

As with many things. 

Energy in = energy out. 

I think we are all pretty aware that if we want something big or transformative in our lives, it very rarely requires little to no work. 

Possible, but rare. 

Let’s look at a more reliable practice to help you get (exactly) what you want. 

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