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Choice Decision Making Emotional Optimum Health Problem Stress

Emotional Eating Does Not Solve The Root Cause

In order to keep these conversations with you relevant, I like to draw on real-life experiences I am exposed to (generally with my coaching clients).

This was as a result of a conversation with a client the other day.

The context is they wanted to better understand why (exactly) – when they are upset – they quaff a couple of glasses of wine, while snacking thorough a bunch of chocolate bars.

I think we might all identify this as ’emotional eating’.

You experience a negative emotional state, which leads to binge eating.

And unfortunately, the binge eating generally does not involve carrot or celery sticks and a homemade organic dip.

It is most often high calorie, low nutrient, foods.

Why? Why? Why?

And what to do?

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Choice Decision Making Goal Setting Tips Success Time

A Super Effective Life Master Plan Practice

This is ESSENTIAL when it comes to the fulfillment of your Life Master Plan.

It is also essential if you want to have a lifestyle experience, which is in alignment with your actual MOST DESIRED Lifestyle.

It is also essential if you don’t want to get lost on your life path, or follow a path that is unfulfilling, or even painful.

But here is the thing.

It is a great thing to come up with a Life Master Plan, but how do you make sure you stay on track???

Or know when you might need a course correction asap.

Here is a common occurrence with my clients.

They (people) stay in un-fun, unfulfilling, crappy, soul destroying, disruptive, painful, and emotionally draining WAY LONGER than is necessary, intelligent or good for them and their physical and mental health.

Firstly, WHY??

And then, HOW do we make sure we are not one of those statistics?

Please read on.

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Choice Decision Making Growth Life Lessons Problem Stress

Best Steps to Overcoming Obstacles

Today we are going to talk about how you can overcome any obstacles in your life, in the best way (i.e. best result with the least energy).

I LOVE overcoming obstacles.

And probably why I was in the Royal Australian Engineers, as an officer for 14 years. We were taught a lot about how to overcome obstacles on the battlefield. It definitely involved some exploding stuff, but it also came done to our CREATIVITY. Why expend more effort and resources than you need to (or have at your disposal).

So that’s our focus today.

How can you effectively overcome obstacles with the least amount of effort?

This is the NUMBER 1 thing I do when coaching. Help people overcome obstacles, so they reach the destination of their choosing – in the best mental and physical health.

There is no point in being so battered and bruised from getting through an obstacle, that you don’t have the energy to go on.

We are about smarter, not harder.

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Belief Choice Decision Making Growth Perspective Success

Are You Using The ‘Right’ Metrics to Measure SUCCESS

We have already started with a good quality question.

Just the way I like it.

This topic has come up for me with a number of my coaching clients, in the past, and even more of late.

Because, here is the thing.

I can use a unit of measure that tells me I am successful (or not), but if that unit my measure is crap, then the feedback I am getting is not really that useful.

So…what unit of measure are you using, to determine if you are doing well or not in this game of life?

Now, let’s go deeper.

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Acceptance Decision Making Growth Life Lessons Perspective

What are you Resisting?

You might know by now, that I love to ask questions. So…

What in your life, right now, are you resisting?

(Whether that is a little or a lot)

It really is a great question to start the illumination and growth process. Sort of like the sun shining on a seed in order to help it grow. You are the seed and the illumination in this case is the gaze of your CURIOUS and consciously aware mind.

In fact, to get the most out of this growth experience, you will also be adding another ‘superfood’ ingredient to the mix…COURAGE.

This article is inspired by a colleague of mine – Leah – a fellow explorer of life and its meaning (and also the author of a very cool book called Drawn Together: Uplifting Comics on the Curious Journey Through Life and Love).

Leah told me that my article on creating our ideal lifestyle was a total trigger for her. She experienced a whole bunch of RESISTANCE to the activity where you evaluate what your ideal lifestyle might look like. Therefore with Leah’s permission, and my own curiosity, let’s see what we can learn from her experience.

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Choice Decision Making Growth Life Lessons

Your Destiny, Decision-Making, and Sound Bites

Let’s continue with this wonderful subject of how to make your life more AWESOME.

But first it is question time…

Would you like to be an effective CO-CREATOR in your Destiny (as opposed to being at the whim of ‘fate’ or other peoples personal agenda’s)?

I am guessing you said “Yes”.

Next question…

How important do you think the quality of your decision-making would be when it comes to being this potent and powerful co-creator of your destiny?

I am also guessing you said “VERY (or #%@#&) Important!”, or words to that effect.

Cool. We are on the same sheet of music.

And just so you understand my background when it comes to this decision-making thing (so I have some street cred): I have a combination of 14-years as an officer in the army; 5 years security consulting to Olympic Games and mega events; 14 years coaching; training in NLP and hypnotherapy; and wrote a book last year called ‘Decision Making Mastery’.

So, are you with me?

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Choice Decision Making Goal Setting Tips Life Lessons Success

Are You Living According to YOUR Plan?

What is your plan

I just finished having a Part 2 Podcast conversation with fellow coaching colleague of mine – Sharon Cavanaugh – where we delved deeper into what tools, tips and strategies we have in our arsenal to best serve ourselves and our clients when it comes to turning the dial up on life.

We switched around different topics, but there is one I want to focus on today.

It relates to the question:

Are you (a) doing what you love to do, or (b) what you have become good at?

We could also interchange the list of (b) options with…

…or what people think you should be doing?

…or what you think you should be doing?

…or what your parents wanted you to do?

…or what you get the most recognition from?

…etc.

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Choice consciousness Decision Making Growth Perspective

2 Common Mistakes when Manifesting Desires

2 mistakes people make when manifesting

In a recent Life Masterclass podcast, I had a conversation with a coaching colleague of mine – Sharon Cavanaugh – about meditation and different modalities we have found to be most effective for ourselves and out clients. Do check it out.

We both agree one of our favourite meditators and educators is author and neuroscientist Dr Joe Dispenza, and recently Sharon and a mutual friend had the opportunity to attend an advanced retreat in Denver with Dr Joe. By the way if you ever get a chance to attend one of his events I HIGHLY recommend it. Life changing!!

After the event our mutual friend told me that I would love an insight and distinction Dr Joe shared.

He was talking about finding the balance between ‘intent’ and ‘surrender’. He suggested:

“Over-intent becomes trying (which is a form of separation) and over-surrender becomes giving up”.

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Belief Choice Decision Making Growth Perspective

3 Simple Choices that Changed My Life

Becoming a butterfly

When I am hosting workshops or seminars, I like to share parts of my origin story, for the groups benefit. I also like to think of myself as a ‘crash test dummy’.

I try things out on myself first (like a 5-day water-only fast) and then share with someone like you, what the outcomes were – good, bad and otherwise.

Starting during Easter 1999, I decided to undertake a 30-day challenge, which came in the form of a number CD’s and was presented by Tony Robbins. As a result of that activity, I decided to make (an action) three significant life choices, which steered my life in a (completely) different direction.

This is what I learned back then, coupled with insights from the last couple of decades.

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Belief Decision Making Growth Life Lessons Perspective

Beliefs, Flexibility and Increasing Happiness

Level up happiness

You may or may not know that working with beliefs is one of my favourite subjects. One of my books called – The Successful Mind – is all about our beliefs, our thinking, our ‘thoughting’ and how they influence not only our emotional state, but what results we ultimately get in life.

(If you want to listen to a free version of that audiobook, check out the Life Masterclass Podcast channel)

The hypothesis I want to put forward today is that your flexibility when it comes to your beliefs, has a significant impact on how gracefully and easefully you navigate your way through life.

Hands up if – as a small person – you believed in Santa Clause?

Do you still believe in Santa Clause?

I am guess that if you did and you are over the age of 20 (and not living with mum and dad) you might be pretty disappointed when you Xmas tree is still bereft of presents on the 26th of December.