Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!
Enjoy.
One thing I think is very important in life is having loads of ENERGY.
I think we can all agree on that.
Which means, I am actively on the lookout for things that drain us of energy or cause us to have energy “leaks“.
Imagine if we start the day with 100% of energy credits.
But we “leak” 5% here.
And we “leak” 12% there.
Plus, we unknowingly “drain” 9% of energy in another place.
Essential that means – before we even get started in the day – we are only at 74% of our true energy potential.
So, it makes sense to plug leaks wherever we can.
The book I wrote called “18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be” is the perfect resource to identify where you might be leaking energy, spending too much energy, or getting a lower ROI from the energy you are spending.
In the book – which I wrote a couple of years ago – I did not include the energy leak we are focusing on today.
And as often happens, this leak was highlighted by a recent conversation with a Coaching client.
So this article is dedicated to JB.
Hopefully we can learn from their “mistakes”.
Here we go.
I have never been a fan of the “one-size-fits-all” model.
I find it very lazy.
One type of eating for all humans?
One type of schooling for all children?
One type of type of parenting for all kids?
One type of medical intervention for all people?
That is a big fat “NO!!!” to all of these.
We are all (as they would say in Bali) – “Same, same; but different“.
One size does not fit all.
Especially when we look beyond the complexity of our physical, mental, psychological and spiritual differences to the world around us.
It is unique.
And is often different, day-to-day.
Which means we need to show up differently, for different situations, at different times, on different days.
I love to use regular life lessons from my life, and the lives of others, to explore in my articles.
To keep things relevant.
One thing I know is relevant to us all is money.
SO relevant.
It is almost as powerful, and has the potential to spiral our emotions up or down, as the thing called LOVE.
And it ticks me off a bit that it was never taught in school.
Imagine being taught from an early age about how to make a budget, how to save money, and the enormous power of COMPOUNDING INTEREST.
Or dispelling beliefs that are not true or useful, like “money is the root of all evil” or “riches are for the other people” or “you have to work hard for money”.
The last one is not useful IMHO, as it does not have CONTEXT.
There is working HARD, and then there is working consistently and intelligently.
So, money is a “thing”.
Today is a bit of a “Case Study”.
It’s based on a client who stayed in our Tiny House, who we got to know quite well.
Plus, due to my partner – Ferry – not being big on small talk and loving to get right into the juicy stuff…like “How are you actually doing with your relationships?”.
And for me, it was a chance to look at patterns (which is my jam).
We were asking questions of this person – who we will now refer to as “M” – about how their dating was going in Bali?
And I was most interested – as I am – to the psychology at play when it comes to interacting with others, and dating in general.
What was working and what was not?
And if something was not working; why not?
Keeping in mind there is so much subconscious stuff (which drives behaviour) than can trip us up – unknowingly – when it comes to interpersonal interactions.
What is grossly OBVIOUS to an outside observer, can be completely hidden to the individual experiencing it.
So, let me share with you how someone’s “texting speed” almost caused things to implode. (Which you might also be able to relate to).
Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!
Enjoy.
Now, not everyone has sleep issues.
Well, not all the time.
But I am pretty sure that we have all, at times, struggled to get to sleep (and stay asleep), and perhaps woken up feel crappers.
And for some people, getting a bad night’s sleep, has become a full-time occupation.
Sadly too, a lot of the “solutions” offered by the medical cartel system, are pharmaceutical-based (meaning synthetic) which often come with some pretty dodgy side effects.
Therefore, I want to offer you a solution with no negative side effects, is easy to learn and do, costs you approximately $0, and takes about 8-mins.
Interested?
The other topic for today is when we lack energy, or what we might call “motivation“, and are not sure how to ramp it up, or get it back.
And no, the solution is not an extra hit of a double expresso.
The downside with using caffeine to power-up is that it just delays the mental crash, and doesn’t deal with any root cause issues.
It also becomes a bit of a crutch, where you get to the stage where you might lose your sh#t, if a decent coffee is not forth-coming, or heaven forbid, unavailable.
My preferred life strategy is to not depend on any crutches.
And have strategies which need no props at all.
Over the last few weeks, I have been building the pieces of a central theme.
The theme is essentially to make you more POWERFUL.
More wise.
More capable.
More resilient.
More calm.
And less impacted, or adversely affected, by the inevitable curve balls that come your way.
I am also a believer in there being a disruption to the collective consciousness (i.e. the energy and frequency of humanity and the planet), which makes us all a little more amped, unstable, and with a less-coherent personal field of energy.
With political polarization, mixed agenda’s, war’s, oppression of people, rising prices, new taxes, changing rules and regulations, markets confused by the introduction of AI, rising pollution, and a whole bunch of other stuff from your personal list; one of the outcomes is an over-stimulation of the nervous system.
What I call a “jacked” nervous system.
Something I find extremely common with the vast majority of my clients (before we start doing the work).
And something that impedes them from being their 2.0 Version.
I also say often to my clients that what self-care worked in 2019, will not help you thrive in 2026 and beyond.
Let’s just dive straight in.
I am at the airport lounge in Melbourne, on my way back to Bali, and my airport Lounge pass gets me 3hrs, so I want to get this Newsletter sorted chop-chop, and then get myself sorted with some yummy food I saw on the way in. 😉
The key messages of today’s article are simply:
1. There is a REAL cost to Anxiety (or any equivalent emotion that disrupts the nervous system).
2. There are great solutions (one with over 300 research studies validating its effectiveness).
When we truly understand what something is costing us, rather than a cursory understanding, it finally gives us the motivation and commitment to actually address it front on.
Rather than having its slow burn taking us off track.
Like an airplane, which is travelling from Melbourne to Bali, if the plotted course is deviated by just a degree or 2, you don’t end up in Denpasar (your intended destination), but probably land in one of the remote jungles on Papua New Guinea.
The same in life.
If anxiety causes you to go off course just a little bit, it ultimately alters your Destiny.
Let me tell you WHY anxiety throws you off course.
There are a few very valid reasons why this tool is one of my favourite, and most effective.
They include:
But most of all…IT WORKS!!!
Imagine a stress management tool like that.
Learning it and using it would have to be a “no-brainer”.
Well, it is for me.