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How to Improve Your Manifesting Powers

Would you like to be better at manifesting what you ACTUALLY want?

If so, then read on.

Have you ever heard the theory of how many thoughts we have, each day? Since it is not easy to count thoughts, the number ranges from about 6,000 to 60,000. Regardless of the exact number of zero’s it is still A LOT.

In addition to this, researchers suggest most of our thoughts are recurring, and the vast majority of them are NEGATIVE. Eeeeeek!!

This is the foundation for the manifesting strategy I want to share.

Because…

If you are sending out, or percolating, or reacting to, 6,000-60,000 thoughts a day, many of which are not in your best interests (negative); do you want this to be your principle communication source to the Universe?

How does the Universe, or even the people around you, know what you REALLY want, if you have so many thoughts firing off in multiple different directions, like a firecracker?

This is why we need a better strategy.

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Choice consciousness Growth Life Lessons Success

An Essential Practice for Thriving

Today, instead of a question, let’s start with a quote.

The cave you fear to enter is where your treasure lies.” Joseph Campbell (developed the framework of The Hero’s Journey)

I will do a deeper dive, in a future post, on The Hero’s Journey, but for now let’s look at the essence of his work.

And here is my challenge for the warrior in you…

Don’t bugger off, or tell yourself you are too busy to read this, or any other excuse if I say something that you don’t necessarily want to hear.

Things like … to STRUGGLE (at times) is pretty essential to meaningful thriving.

You may not want to hear that.

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Belief Choice Decision Making Growth Perspective Success

Are You Using The ‘Right’ Metrics to Measure SUCCESS

We have already started with a good quality question.

Just the way I like it.

This topic has come up for me with a number of my coaching clients, in the past, and even more of late.

Because, here is the thing.

I can use a unit of measure that tells me I am successful (or not), but if that unit my measure is crap, then the feedback I am getting is not really that useful.

So…what unit of measure are you using, to determine if you are doing well or not in this game of life?

Now, let’s go deeper.

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Acceptance Decision Making Growth Life Lessons Perspective

What are you Resisting?

You might know by now, that I love to ask questions. So…

What in your life, right now, are you resisting?

(Whether that is a little or a lot)

It really is a great question to start the illumination and growth process. Sort of like the sun shining on a seed in order to help it grow. You are the seed and the illumination in this case is the gaze of your CURIOUS and consciously aware mind.

In fact, to get the most out of this growth experience, you will also be adding another ‘superfood’ ingredient to the mix…COURAGE.

This article is inspired by a colleague of mine – Leah – a fellow explorer of life and its meaning (and also the author of a very cool book called Drawn Together: Uplifting Comics on the Curious Journey Through Life and Love).

Leah told me that my article on creating our ideal lifestyle was a total trigger for her. She experienced a whole bunch of RESISTANCE to the activity where you evaluate what your ideal lifestyle might look like. Therefore with Leah’s permission, and my own curiosity, let’s see what we can learn from her experience.

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Choice Decision Making Growth Life Lessons

Your Destiny, Decision-Making, and Sound Bites

Let’s continue with this wonderful subject of how to make your life more AWESOME.

But first it is question time…

Would you like to be an effective CO-CREATOR in your Destiny (as opposed to being at the whim of ‘fate’ or other peoples personal agenda’s)?

I am guessing you said “Yes”.

Next question…

How important do you think the quality of your decision-making would be when it comes to being this potent and powerful co-creator of your destiny?

I am also guessing you said “VERY (or #%@#&) Important!”, or words to that effect.

Cool. We are on the same sheet of music.

And just so you understand my background when it comes to this decision-making thing (so I have some street cred): I have a combination of 14-years as an officer in the army; 5 years security consulting to Olympic Games and mega events; 14 years coaching; training in NLP and hypnotherapy; and wrote a book last year called ‘Decision Making Mastery’.

So, are you with me?

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Choice Gratitude Growth Success

How Close to Ideal is Your Lifestyle?

Are you ready for another question? (And that was not it).

How would you rate the quality of your current LIFESTYLE on a scale of 1 to 10 (where 1 sucks and 10 is awesome!)

Be honest.

Is it spot on?

Or is there a gap between what you would love your lifestyle to be, and what it currently is?

How big is the gap?

If the truth be known, I am not the guy that you come and see if you want to make a bazillion dollars. I am not really an expert in that, plus I am not really interested in that as a meaningful and evolutionary life goal. What I am more interested in is how can we close the gap between now, and what our ideal (meaningful and fulfilling) lifestyle might look like.

Before we go any further; you also don’t need to have a bazillion dollars to create the ideal lifestyle.

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Are You Heading in The Right Direction?

This is a good question.

How meaningful are your life goals on a scale of 1 to 10?

That gets right to the heart of the matter.

And I think in the current world environment, with a lot of bonkers having happened over the last couple of years (and continuing) it really is the time to have a MUCH deeper look into where we are putting our attention, energy, resources and life force.

In The Guidebook to Authentic Success, I suggest that it is hard to truly feel ‘successful’ right down to your bones, if you are not doing things with your life, or heading in the direction of meaningful life goals.

One of my favourite quotes by Earl Nightingale is:

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” I often substitute ‘ideal’ for ‘goal’.

What is means to me is I get to experience the feelings of success (I prefer the authentic version), while I am heading in the direction of, and working towards the realisation of, something that is truly meaningful.

The other thing is if you choose the most meaningful (and right) Goals, you are more likely to experience the other things essential to authentic success, such as: growth, connection, experiencing joy, and feeling in alignment with your authentic self.

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How is Your Body Trying to Get Your Attention?

INTERPRETING MESSAGES FROM THE BODY

I have been coaching, and doing therapy work, for over 14 years now and one of the ways I get to genuinely know where people are at, and how best I can serve them, is to ask them relevant questions.

And one of the best questions I ask does not even require firing up the intellect, because it is a question for their bodies.

I ask them to look inwards, and tell me how their body is speaking to them.

I ask them: “What aches and pains or areas of discomfort are you experiencing in your body now, or experience on a regular basis?

This provides a veritable gold mine of information, for both of us.

Let’s see you how you can also use this same process.

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Book Emotional Relationship

The BEST Relationship Strategy

The author of this book and strategy (Gary Chapman) is a relationship councellor, who discovered that there are five principle ways we express our LOVE in a relationship, and alternatively there are PRIMARY ways we wish to receive the expression of love (back to us) in our relationships.

I recorded a video 5 years ago (complete with whiteboard) to explain to you the full strategy and how to use it.

I would also encourage you to read the book – The 5 Love Languages – or check out Gary Chapman’s website to determine what your Primary Love Language is.

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Belief Choice Emotional Growth Pain Self Love

Are You Doing the (Essential) Inner Work?

PART 2: DOING THE ‘INNER WORK’

In my last post I talked about the importance of working on the inner environment, in order for us to experience optimum health – physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically and even spiritually.

Today, I am going to take the conversation a little deeper, as we talk about what the inner work actually looks like.

First let us establish a few foundational pieces:

  • Thoughts and feelings (emotions) have a chemical effect within the body.
  • Thoughts and feelings have an electromagnetic effect within the body and its field.
  • Past traumatic experiences, if not resolved, can have effects in the present.
  • Hoping our past doesn’t impact our present, generally doesn’t work.
  • Neuroscientists suggest that we are only consciously aware of our thoughts, feelings and even behaviours, about 2-8% of the time. When we are not fully present in the moment, we go into our unconscious autopilot ‘programs’. To understand this deeper check out – The Successful Mind.
  • Essentially non-physical things (emotions) can have physical effects on the body.
  • Physical interventions (medication, surgery, radiation, and even exercise & nutrition) don’t necessarily heal the root cause of emotional or physical symptoms.