On the back-end of 2020, I decided that when I sat down and gave my full attention to what I wanted out of this new year, I would take an even deeper approach to that question.
And as I like to teach: great answers come from great questions.
‘What do I want in 2021?’ is a pretty lame question; so it did not get any attention. And to merely ask what I wanted to do in 2021 was still not cutting the grade. It was not taking the conversation deep enough.
After a very whacky 2020 and the fallout still washing over into 2021, it was time to go a lot deeper. So I headed to my favourite bungalow in Candi Dasa (at Pondok Pisang), and while sitting on a sun bed, looking out over nothing but the ocean and the skyline, I got out my diary and worked on answering a number of questions to the best of my ability.
I thought with this post I would share with you a simple 7-step plan I whipped up last week, as part of the Life Audit program I facilitated. One thing I am very clear on, is the idea that it is better to have a plan, even if it is not 100% ‘perfect’ rather than no plan at all.
When we have no plan, we tend to get blown around in the wind. We are rudderless.
We are more likely to experience uncertainty, we are more likely to be second guessing ourselves and we are more likely to be marking time on the spot.
A PLAN gets us moving. And it is through movement, that we get a better perspective of what is working and what is not working. Movement, through a plan, also stops us from stagnating. The added benefit is also that as we start moving, we notice new things we were not aware when we were standing still.
So if you are after a PLAN about how to reset things for the second half of 2020, then I encourage you to check out my hand written plan below.
Are you over the whole ‘goal setting’ thing yet?
As much as the concept and words have a bad wrap, there is great benefit to figuring out what you want in life, so you can point your life in that general direction. The problem is that if the exercise is entirely cognitive (in your head) you might actually be heading in the opposite direction to your true destination.
1. The journey is the destination
I heard the statement above again recently. Actually I have heard it said in many different ways, but this is more clear for the succinct point I want to make.
This one has come up a lot of late with clients, but applies to us all.
Regardless of how much money you have in the bank, the quality of your relationships, the size of your (add your own word here ;-)), etc. this is applicable to us all.
Have you ever thought, that someone ‘over there’ has it all figured out. Or has the perfect life. Or is free of PAIN, struggles and challenges. Or is SO different to you. Or has no money issues.This is a myth.
If you ever get to the end of the day and feel like you have not made any forward progress, or that your day was not successful, or you feel like you were pretty unproductive, I might have just the strategy for you.
That feeling thing
I am going to repeat myself, because apparently ‘repetition is the mother of learning’. The way we FEEL has more impact on our life than what we have (or don’t have). In fact we can actually feel a certain way, by thought alone.
So success isn’t just about achieving things, it is about feeling a particular way. So rather than fixating on what we need to have or do or get to feel successful, we would be better off asking, “how can we generate more FEELINGS of success?” Continue reading
The last couple of weeks I have had a number of people say, I would love to do Coaching with you or your course is just what I have been looking for, but I am not in a financial position to do so. So I figured it would be good for them and good for me, if I helped with some specific strategies on how to attract more money into their lives.
I think I can make this statement and feel pretty confident it applies to 95% of the population. We all have some pretty atrocious beliefs when it comes to money. Some people are even brought to tears when you just mention the ‘money’ word. We definitely need to change that.
When I started poking around at my own beliefs as part of my R&D (Research and Development) into creating my money making program, I came up with some doozies for myself. One of my worst was…
“I don’t need much.” Continue reading