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Belief consciousness Life Lessons Perspective

Texting, The Subconscious, And Relationship “Challenges” 

Today is a bit of a “Case Study”.

It’s based on a client who stayed in our Tiny House, who we got to know quite well. 

Plus, due to my partner – Ferry – not being big on small talk and loving to get right into the juicy stuff…like “How are you actually doing with your relationships?”. 

And for me, it was a chance to look at patterns (which is my jam). 

We were asking questions of this person – who we will now refer to as “M” – about how their dating was going in Bali? 

And I was most interested – as I am – to the psychology at play when it comes to interacting with others, and dating in general.

What was working and what was not? 

And if something was not working; why not? 

Keeping in mind there is so much subconscious stuff (which drives behaviour) than can trip us up – unknowingly – when it comes to interpersonal interactions. 

What is grossly OBVIOUS to an outside observer, can be completely hidden to the individual experiencing it. 

So, let me share with you how someone’s “texting speed” almost caused things to implode. (Which you might also be able to relate to).

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Choice consciousness Growth

You Can’t Access True Wisdom Without “Fixing” This First

Over the last few weeks, I have been building the pieces of a central theme.

The theme is essentially to make you more POWERFUL. 

More wise. 

More capable. 

More resilient. 

More calm. 

And less impacted, or adversely affected, by the inevitable curve balls that come your way. 

I am also a believer in there being a disruption to the collective consciousness (i.e. the energy and frequency of humanity and the planet), which makes us all a little more amped, unstable, and with a less-coherent personal field of energy. 

With political polarization, mixed agenda’s, war’s, oppression of people, rising prices, new taxes, changing rules and regulations, markets confused by the introduction of AI, rising pollution, and a whole bunch of other stuff from your personal list; one of the outcomes is an over-stimulation of the nervous system. 

What I call a “jacked” nervous system. 

Something I find extremely common with the vast majority of my clients (before we start doing the work).

And something that impedes them from being their 2.0 Version. 

I also say often to my clients that what self-care worked in 2019, will not help you thrive in 2026 and beyond. 

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consciousness Emotional Negative Emotions Overwhelm Stress

The Best Stress Management Tool In My Bag of Tricks

There are a few very valid reasons why this tool is one of my favourite, and most effective. 

They include: 

  • It is really easy to learn (we are talking 5-10 mins and for ages 6+).
  • It is FREE. 
  • It goes everywhere with you, all the time. 
  • There are no props required. 
  • It is really simple to do. 

But most of all…IT WORKS!!!

Imagine a stress management tool like that. 

Learning it and using it would have to be a “no-brainer”. 

Well, it is for me. 

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Choice consciousness Emotional

Understanding And Overcoming “People Pleasing” 

I am always on the lookout for relevant topics. 

Recently I was working with a client and a particular “topic” came up, and then 2 days later, the very same topic came up from a very different source.

I figure if 2 people in a short time are having an issue with “people pleasing“, there are bound to be a lot more people in the same situation.

And the focus will be on making this (as always) super practical.

In my mind, there is a HUGE difference between doing things because your big beautiful heart wants to, and doing things out of FEAR because of some unknown, subconscious program playing in the back of your mind. 

Essentially running a script like: “If you DO NOT people please then bad things will happen, or you won’t feel good about yourself“.

It is like the HEART-initiated pleasing others elevates you, while the HEAD-initiated (due to untrue stories) takes you down. 

Let’s explore this a little deeper.  

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consciousness Decision Making Emotional Perspective

When A Virtue Like “Loyalty” Stops Being A Healthy Virtue

This article is inspired by a Coaching session I had the other day. 

Which has come up with a number of my clients. 

There is a great message I want to share. 

Not just in relation to Loyalty (which we will go deeper into), but all virtues in general. 

Hands up if you think Loyalty is a great virtue? 

Chances are most people would raise their hand. 

Unless, you are now getting a bit suspicious about a trick question I may be asking you. 

In that case, you might be gingerly raising your hand, slowly, so you can pull it down again, if you figure out where I am taking things. 

Me personally (based on what I know and have experienced); I am not such a big fan of Loyalty if it comes in the 2-dimensional version, and not the 3-dimensional version; and even then, I reckon there are better virtues to hang your hat on. 

Let me explain.  

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consciousness Feeling Perspective

The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly

Just the other day I was watching Clint Eastwood’s movie Unforgiven (a movie which is actually quite deep, as opposed to just a shoot-em-up Western), and hence the heading of this article. 

The title also lends itself to a reasonable exploration of this topic. 

A topic, I believe if we master, can change our lives. 

If done, and done well. 

As with many things. 

Energy in = energy out. 

I think we are all pretty aware that if we want something big or transformative in our lives, it very rarely requires little to no work. 

Possible, but rare. 

Let’s look at a more reliable practice to help you get (exactly) what you want. 

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Choice consciousness Feeling Perspective

Thriving In A World Gone Bonkers

I wrote the first draft of this Newsletter as I waited at the Brisbane airport.   

And before I sat down, I was not entirely sure what I was going to write about. 

But I figured I would write about what might be at the forefront of people’s minds right about now.

And not just about the specifics of the shenanigans going on right now – whether that is a USA / Israel / Iran thing, or a Russian / Ukraine thing, or a Israel / Palestine thing, or a Jeffrey Epstein thing.

Or whatever it is – of the many things to choose from – that is trying to pull a lot of our attention now. 

 My primary interest is not in the state of affairs or even the (real “why”, I am a lot more interested in how we become the type of person who is not affected, or less affected, by WHATEVER the apparent crisis might be, regardless of how close we are or aren’t to the epicentre of the issue. 

I am most interested in how we can become a powerful enough person, so we can maintain a sense of calm, clarity, stability and with a luminous mind shining brightly; REGARDLESS of the flavour of the world or local issues going on.

And even how we can get and remain in love with life, regardless of the veracity of the storms we weather.  

Rather than trying to “logically” figure out why things are happening, or how they will unfold, or who is telling the truth and who is telling ‘porky pies’, which will just send us all nuts. 

And is not that useful for us in our day-to-day. 

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Choice consciousness Decision Making Emotional Feeling Growth

A More Effective Strategy Than “Trying to Find Yourself”  

I have coached lots of different people over the past 18 years.

Plus, I have been “coaching” myself for the last 26 years.

And something that has come up frequently in those conversations, when people reach out to me ready to do the “deeper inner work“, is their thoughts about “Who am I?” 

Maybe you can relate to this. 

In fact, if you ask yourself that question right now, do you receive a very coherent and clear response?

It’s actually a great question to play with. 

But what I have consistently witnessed over time is that the idea of “trying to find yourself” is not the most effective Strategy. 

And perhaps causes people to look in all the wrong directions. 

Additionally, it doesn’t seem to tap into the most powerful parts of self. 

The human being-ness of us. 

One of the most powerful things we have access to is an UNIMITED potential to CREATE. 

Which is our discussion point today. 

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