Category: Growth

3 Things I Have Learned Over The Last 3 Weeks

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Post date September 25, 2015
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In the last three weeks I have flown to LA, attended a Coaching Intensive Workshop for 4-days, met some new clients in LA (all actors funnily enough) and hung out in the US of A for a bunch of days. So here is what I have learned.

Lesson 1: (before I left Bali) Don’t believe everything you read (especially) from the ‘authorities’

I am sort of dedicating this newsletter to the concept of miracles as a result of some banter back and forth on Facebook the other day. I recommended a great book I am reading about how the health of the internal flora of the gut is being found to have not only a significant impact on your physical health, but on your mental health as well. Someone had pasted a link to some ‘official’ report that suggested the that author (a practicing neurologist) was a charlatan, because in his last book he used the ‘miracle’ word when it came to some of the health responses he had seen with his clients as a result of working on the health of the gut.

Acceptance Choice Growth

5 Simple & Effective Strategies to Make Your Life Easier & More Enjoyable

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Post date September 3, 2015
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Let me just dive straight in with the first strategy…

Strategy 1: Get present

For those who are a big fan of getting gifts, I am sure you are a wee disappointed there is no ‘s’ on the end of ‘present’. The only challenge with that strategy is that it is dependent on others. We are after guaranteed outcomes, so are heading another direction. ;-)Yes. This is about doing the ‘in the now’ thing. It takes an effort, but it is possible to bring your attention fully into the activity in front of you. And the good thing about that is it stops the over-activity in your mind thinking about the past or future (where 90% of discomfort exists). It is SO calming when you become fully present in this moment. Your conversations with others are so much better. Your results are so much better. You can relax so much more.

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Are You Being Selfish Enough?

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Post date August 20, 2015
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Who is already uncomfortable? Or thinking where the heck am I going with this?

Are you comfortable enough to say ‘I am selfish’? Or ‘I need to be more selfish in my life’?

As a result of writing The Guidebook to Authentic Success, and a couple of pretty painful life experiences over the last few weeks, I needed to revisit my relationship with the ‘selfish’ word and I thought I would share with you what came up.

So let’s get this selfish party started.

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Discover What is Holding You Back From Your Next Level, and How to Shift It

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Post date July 23, 2015
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When I first heard this ‘theory’ I was a little blown away.

The ramifications of this insight were profound for me and my clients. What I am going to do is to share this insight with you, which each of you will ‘get’ to varying degrees, and then I will share some scenario’s so you can see how it plays out in real life, in real time.

Drum roll please…Here it is…
Do you want me to get on with it already??? 😉

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3 Hard Won Lessons

Now you will note in the title that I did not write 3 hard experiences that left me feeling a little bit crappy and deflated and somewhat out of sorts.

Not just because that title would be too long, but because I have a strong belief – which is lesson 1 – that EVERYTHING that happens to us (or that we make happen) in life, is a LESSON and an opportunity for GROWTH and WISDOM.

Ok. Another lesson I have learned is we are all (often) a little short of time, so I will get straight into the lessons, which are less often about rocket science and more often just great reminders.

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The Only Time You Have No Choice is When You ‘Believe’ You Have No Choice

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Post date July 2, 2015
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Do you agree with the statement I made in the title? That there is never a time where you have no choice.

Viktor Frankl believed that. He wrote Man’s Search For Meaning and talked about how in Nazi concentration camps in WWII, regardless of what was done to them, they always had a choice as to what meaning they gave an experience. And it was the meaning people attributed to the situation which had a bigger impact on their survival than any physical attribute.

Now let’s lighten things up before I go any further, as most of us are not in, nor are likely to be in that kind of situation. But it is a great reminder that we always have some choice. It gives us some perspective.

Acceptance Belief Feeling Growth

How Success & Growth Go Hand-in-hand with This New BFF

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Post date June 25, 2015
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Can I tell you a secret? This last week on my Coach Training Course was a tough one. Really tough. But also REALLY rewarding. I learned SO much. And I know I also grew a lot (though not in height unfortunately, as I am still a short, dark, handsome 165cm). Just joking! And being the cheeky so-and-so that I am. 😉

For the last 3 years, I have had this condition where before a major presentation, or course, or retreat that I am running, I would have this bizarre skin reaction on my left hand pointing finger. It would be primarily be in the front middle of the finger between the joints and look like I had leprosy (not a good look). I imagine it was some sort of stress eczema. I tried so many different techniques, strategies, tools, and therapies on it over the last 2 years to no avail. However, after and during a really challenging week last week, although I got a faint itch on the finger it did not break out in a freak show. I AM CURED!!!!

Want to know what I did differently?

Feeling Growth Honesty Relationship

The Challenge

Time is limited, so let’s get straight to it! This is the Challenge: I want you to become

THE MOST HONEST PERSON YOU KNOW.

WHY Number 1

Most of my clients come to me thinking they have a high level of integrity and honesty and tell me so. But then when I start asking them some tricky questions (which usually has them doing a bit of squiring) it becomes apparent that their 8/10 honesty might be closer to a 4 or 5 (or worse! ;-)).

The reason why is because very few people have the courage to say what they truly think and feel for fear of upsetting other people. Or worse, they know what they feel but they tell themselves that is not what the person in front of them needs to hear, so they choke it down. And in my experience, in 99% of cases, what needs to be said is the truth – what you are honesty feeling and thinking.

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5 Ways To Live A Richer Life

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Post date April 30, 2015
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Let’s just dive straight in!!

Tip 1: Something about trees and forests

See the bigger picture.

Get in the habit of catching yourself out if you focus and ruminate on what is going wrong in one moment or short space of time. Don’t get fixated on the tress and miss the beauty and richness of the forest.

If something is not working, step back, breathe, look around and connect to something that is working. And the more we condition ourselves to look for what ‘IS WORKING’ the more we will find it.

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5 Tips to Increase Your Self-Esteem

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Post date April 9, 2015
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At the start of the week I had someone ask me the question about how they can increase their self-esteem. So here are 5 ways that I know for increasing your self-esteem.

Tip 1: 1 Inside = 10 Outsides

You get a huge gold star if you figure out what the heck I am going to say after reading the sub-title.

My point is when it comes to self-esteem there was a mistaken belief, that was perpetuated a couple of decades ago and still holds some sway today, that by telling someone they are great it will increase their self-esteem. Nup – not really. Though too much is likely to increase someones level of narcissism. 😉

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