I spent about 45 mins the other day in a session with one of my clients helping them with improving their decision making abilities. It is definitely a teachable skill.
It is pretty obvious to me – and I suspect you will agree – that the choices we make, based on our decision-making process (or lack of one ;-)) have an enormous impact on the quality of our lives. It impacts the amount of joy we experience, and the amount of unproductive or negative stress in our daily lives.
Let’s get started (and these are not necessarily in priority order).
I am still trying to deal with a problem in my life as the result of a very bad decision I made at the end of 2007. I decided to invest a good chunk of my nest egg into a business I knew nothing about, with people who I had a strong gut feeling did not share my personal values (plus I hardly knew them), and with other people that later turned out to be liars, thieves and bullies (who I definitely did not know).
Does the word ‘stupid’ come to mind for you as well? 😉
Hands up if you have made unconscious / poor / rushed / bad / thoughtless / etc. decisions in the past that end up dragging behind you for months, years or decades? I expect that there are a lot of hands up in the air. We are in this together!
The first thing is unfortunately this is how we best learn. By making mistakes. By getting things wrong. By getting feedback that the decision we made was a ‘bad’ one. Even when I am in the middle of a complete mess, I have a little part of me that reminds me that everything in life is an opportunity to LEARN and GROW. This does not make it easier, but it does give the experience more meaning. Continue reading
My favourite share with you guys and girls, come as a result of what’s coming up with the clients I am working with at the time.
And as some of you know, I have this belief that the right things, come up at the right time, for the right people. So I know some of what follows will turn on some serious light bulbs in people’s minds. Well I want the lights on, but then I also want you to roll your sleeves up and do the work.
I have always been fascinated by why we do what we do.
I see people achieving great stuff, but I like to look below the surface and see if it is also making them happy. Why are they doing what they are doing? What motivates them, and does what motivates them, lead them on a path of happiness and fulfilment. Continue reading
I am someone who rarely gets accused of being whatever the opposite of blunt is; so I am going to give you this insipid, nasty, dream destroying, illness causing, relationship disrupting, C Word straight up.
It is COMPLACENCY.
And don’t you dare be complacent about this word!!!! 😉
It is like a ninja. A silent killer.
It adversely affects peoples potential, the quality of their relationships, the state of their health, the success of their businesses, the meaningfulness of their lives, the legacy that we create and leave behind, and a whole bunch of other negative and depressing to read stuff.
I am sure you get the picture. Continue reading
This is definitely a question I am asked often and inevitably something I end up working on with all of my clients.
Because everyone, at times, feels this deeply unsettling feeling of ‘being out of balance’. Because we know at some level that it is possible to feel centered, grounded, and harmonious more often. And from a physical perspective, the body and brain, love to be in homeostasis. Which is about balance, calmness and efficient use of energy.
So how do we create that feeling of balance as the default, rather have it show up as an occasional visitor?
Let me tell you what I use and recommend…
If you have been following me for awhile, you know I am pretty fanatical about the whole nutrition thing and it was an important part of my last book (The Guidebook to Optimum Health).
I am actually reading a book by Dr Deepak Chopra at the moment (Super Genes) that goes into a lot more detail about how our diet actually affects our genetic expression. And then there is the case of how our diet impacts the internal flora of our stomachs. There are actually 10 times as many bacteria in our stomachs as there are cells in our bodies. So these little critters have a huge impact on our health; so feeding them the right stuff is essential. Continue reading
Before I run any workshops or seminars I like to ask everyone 3 simple questions. What is their biggest personal challenge, what is their biggest professional challenge and what could I talk about that will make my presentation potentially life changing.
One of the key questions, topics, and challenges in peoples lives is:
How the (beep) can I manage my time better?…so I have less stress, I get more done, I have more fun, and I have more harmony in my life.
Here is what I say…
Happy New Year!
Now I figure most of us are still in holiday mode, so don’t want too long a newsletter. But we do want to put some (intelligent) thought into the master plan for 2016, so I will keep this short, sweet and RELEVANT. 😉
So get ready for the BIG 3!!!!
New Year Tip 1: Use some eye drops if you need to
After the new year, I thought a few of you might need some eye drops to allow you to see with crystal clarity. Tip 1 is about clarity, but it is from 2 different directions.
I was looking through an old notebook and I saw some notes from a Tony Robbins presentation (he is a leading success coach), who has a 3 decade head start on me in the personal transformation space.
- So he has great perspective, knowledge, experience and wisdom when it comes to doing the break-though stuff. So I will share his three things and then I will expand on them from a very practical perspective.
- Change your Strategy
Change your Story
Change your State
Now let’s dive straight in, to see how we can practically integrate each of these and make some major breakthroughs in your life.
Ok. I get it. That is a big call. ‘All’ problems. But give it a go. You might surprise yourself. And if it is not working out for you (here comes my big call), send me an email and see how I can help with this ‘unsolvable’ dilemma. I am breathing deeply now and wondering if I need to delete that line. 😉
Fortunately I own this belief that says I can positively impact anything I put my mind power to. And want to know what the real big secret is?
You can too!
This I know.