Category: Choice

Just 2 Things To Change the Course of Your Life

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Post date February 23, 2017
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If you have read any of my writing you know that I am fascinated by what it takes to get more of what we really want, with the least amount of energy, time and resources.

I want to know what it takes to experience life to its fullest. To fully evolve. To have a life experience that is something to write about. And not just in theory. I want to know HOW to change the change the course of my life and the lives of others.

I also realise now that if we make what may seem like a small change now, in 12-months time we are living a completely different life experience.

Plus I realise that the CHOICES we make are the building blocks of our DESTINY. You have the power to change the course of your life. From moment to moment, by the quality of your choices.

And finally I realise that we have been given the gift of ‘free will’ by life. We always have a choice; even if the choice is on how we choose to respond to life’s events. In the end, we always have a choice in shaping our destiny.

So here are two things which will change the course of your life.

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3 Life Tips That I Know Will Serve You Today

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Post date January 26, 2017
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Hello again.

Did you know that I have been writing a newsletter and ‘Tips’ since 2005? That is a LOT of Tips and sometimes I get myself into a wee tail-spin trying to figure out the best way to serve you. I generally ask myself “What is the most relevant and impactful thing I can share with you today?” and then trust that the most useful stuff will bubble to the surface.

This is what bubbled up today…

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Discover the Words that Are Subconsciously Sabotaging Your Success (& Affecting Your Emotions)

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Post date December 9, 2016
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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
“The pen is mightier than the sword.”It seems like these two sayings are a little bit opposed to each other. The first one is a rhyme that children might say in a schoolyard to downplay the impact of unkind words said to them by any kid. Maybe they realise on some level that taking the sting out of unkind words, is essential for their future happiness.The second statement is a realisation that words can have an enormous impact that can do more damage than your typical sword wielding maniac. This is what I have come to learn and know with absolute certainty. The language we use impacts our emotions and behaviour; and therefore impacts our lives.

So here are some of the words I work with my clients on being more conscious of, in order to propel their success, and to let go of the stuff that is not swerving them.

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A Communication Strategy for Reducing Relationship Stress

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Post date November 10, 2016
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Just to make sure I am talking to the right person.

Hands up if you have received any form of communication from a friend, colleague, intimate partner, or boss in the last few weeks that made you feel like you had been sucker punched in the stomach?

One of those messages, where you feel this sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach.
It might come up as a feeling of fear, disappointment, rage, indignation, frustration, disbelief, or seething anger. Ouch!

Has that happened to you recently or in the near past?
If so, then read on. If not, then read on (as it will ;-))

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If You Don’t Do This Your Future Will Look Very Similar to Your Past

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Post date September 16, 2016
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As I said I have been on the personal growth journey since Easter 1999. That is when I woke up (and no it was not when I joined a cult and got forgiven for my sins if I did X, Y, and Z … and gave them $10,000 to show my level of commitment ;-)).

Though I did have the right teacher for me, saying the right things, in the right way, at the right time for me to wake up.

I used to tell myself that I was ‘unlucky’. I would always be the one caught with their hand in the cookie jar, or throwing that rock at something I shouldn’t, or saying the wrong thing to someone and making them cry.

I was BLAMING circumstances and people OUTSIDE of myself for the problems I had in my life.

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Learn How To Optimize Your Willpower (so Your Behaviour Matches Your Desires)

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Post date July 7, 2016
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Now when I talk about ‘desires’ I am talking about the ones you have thought about and have purposefully planted, as opposed to the desires that talk to that animal part of your brain and pull you in numerous different directions, plus they often come with literal or metaphorical hang-overs. 😉

So…are you ready to learn even more about the brain? Your brain. That incredibly powerful tool at your disposal that often stands between mediocrity and joyful success and happiness.

It turns out that willpower trumps IQ when it comes to success. When researchers measured the willpower of children, and their IQ, they found that willpower was a bigger determinate of whether a child would be successful, as opposed to IQ. No surprises really. I like the saying that successful people do the things that unsuccessful people refuse to do, not because they want to do them, but because they know it needs to be done. The tool they use is WILLPOWER. Like my favourite Michael Beckwith quote: “What does not feeling like it have to do with it?”

This might just be my favourite subject…

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6 Great Tips for Making Even Better Decisions and Avoiding Disastrous Consequences

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Post date June 24, 2016
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I spent about 45 mins the other day in a session with one of my clients helping them with improving their decision making abilities. It is definitely a teachable skill.

It is pretty obvious to me – and I suspect you will agree – that the choices we make, based on our decision-making process (or lack of one ;-)) have an enormous impact on the quality of our lives. It impacts the amount of joy we experience, and the amount of unproductive or negative stress in our daily lives.

Let’s get started (and these are not necessarily in priority order).

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How to Overcome Our Biggest Life Challenges & Ridiculously Bad Decisions

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Post date May 26, 2016
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I am still trying to deal with a problem in my life as the result of a very bad decision I made at the end of 2007. I decided to invest a good chunk of my nest egg into a business I knew nothing about, with people who I had a strong gut feeling did not share my personal values (plus I hardly knew them), and with other people that later turned out to be liars, thieves and bullies (who I definitely did not know).

Does the word ‘stupid’ come to mind for you as well? 😉

Hands up if you have made unconscious / poor / rushed / bad / thoughtless / etc. decisions in the past that end up dragging behind you for months, years or decades? I expect that there are a lot of hands up in the air. We are in this together!

The first thing is unfortunately this is how we best learn. By making mistakes. By getting things wrong. By getting feedback that the decision we made was a ‘bad’ one. Even when I am in the middle of a complete mess, I have a little part of me that reminds me that everything in life is an opportunity to LEARN and GROW. This does not make it easier, but it does give the experience more meaning.

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Discover 3 Common Habitual Patterns That Motivate Us, BUT Don’t Make Us Happy

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Post date April 28, 2016
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My favourite share with you guys and girls, come as a result of what’s coming up with the clients I am working with at the time.

And as some of you know, I have this belief that the right things, come up at the right time, for the right people. So I know some of what follows will turn on some serious light bulbs in people’s minds. Well I want the lights on, but then I also want you to roll your sleeves up and do the work.

I have always been fascinated by why we do what we do.

I see people achieving great stuff, but I like to look below the surface and see if it is also making them happy. Why are they doing what they are doing? What motivates them, and does what motivates them, lead them on a path of happiness and fulfilment.

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One of the Most Damaging C Words When It Comes to Life Success

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Post date March 31, 2016
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I am someone who rarely gets accused of being whatever the opposite of blunt is; so I am going to give you this insipid, nasty, dream destroying, illness causing, relationship disrupting, C Word straight up.

It is COMPLACENCY.

And don’t you dare be complacent about this word!!!! 😉
It is like a ninja. A silent killer.

It adversely affects peoples potential, the quality of their relationships, the state of their health, the success of their businesses, the meaningfulness of their lives, the legacy that we create and leave behind, and a whole bunch of other negative and depressing to read stuff.

I am sure you get the picture.