Category: Choice

An Essential Practice for Thriving

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Post date July 12, 2022
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Today, instead of a question, let’s start with a quote.

“The cave you fear to enter is where your treasure lies.” Joseph Campbell (developed the framework of The Hero’s Journey)

I will do a deeper dive, in a future post, on The Hero’s Journey, but for now let’s look at the essence of his work.

And here is my challenge for the warrior in you…

Don’t bugger off, or tell yourself you are too busy to read this, or any other excuse if I say something that you don’t necessarily want to hear.

Things like … to STRUGGLE (at times) is pretty essential to meaningful thriving.

You may not want to hear that.

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Are You Using The ‘Right’ Metrics to Measure SUCCESS

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Post date July 5, 2022
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We have already started with a good quality question.

Just the way I like it.

This topic has come up for me with a number of my coaching clients, in the past, and even more of late.

Because, here is the thing.

I can use a unit of measure that tells me I am successful (or not), but if that unit my measure is crap, then the feedback I am getting is not really that useful.

So…what unit of measure are you using, to determine if you are doing well or not in this game of life?

Now, let’s go deeper.

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Your Destiny, Decision-Making, and Sound Bites

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Post date June 21, 2022
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Let’s continue with this wonderful subject of how to make your life more AWESOME.

But first it is question time…

Would you like to be an effective CO-CREATOR in your Destiny (as opposed to being at the whim of ‘fate’ or other peoples personal agenda’s)?

I am guessing you said “Yes”.

Next question…

How important do you think the quality of your decision-making would be when it comes to being this potent and powerful co-creator of your destiny?

I am also guessing you said “VERY (or #%@#&) Important!”, or words to that effect.

Cool. We are on the same sheet of music.

And just so you understand my background when it comes to this decision-making thing (so I have some street cred): I have a combination of 14-years as an officer in the army; 5 years security consulting to Olympic Games and mega events; 14 years coaching; training in NLP and hypnotherapy; and wrote a book last year called ‘Decision Making Mastery’.

So, are you with me?

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How Close to Ideal is Your Lifestyle?

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Post date June 15, 2022
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Are you ready for another question? (And that was not it).

How would you rate the quality of your current LIFESTYLE on a scale of 1 to 10 (where 1 sucks and 10 is awesome!)

Be honest.

Is it spot on?

Or is there a gap between what you would love your lifestyle to be, and what it currently is?

How big is the gap?

If the truth be known, I am not the guy that you come and see if you want to make a bazillion dollars. I am not really an expert in that, plus I am not really interested in that as a meaningful and evolutionary life goal. What I am more interested in is how can we close the gap between now, and what our ideal (meaningful and fulfilling) lifestyle might look like.

Before we go any further; you also don’t need to have a bazillion dollars to create the ideal lifestyle.

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Are You Doing the (Essential) Inner Work?

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Post date May 17, 2022
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PART 2: DOING THE ‘INNER WORK’

In my last post I talked about the importance of working on the inner environment, in order for us to experience optimum health – physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically and even spiritually.

Today, I am going to take the conversation a little deeper, as we talk about what the inner work actually looks like.

First let us establish a few foundational pieces:

Thoughts and feelings (emotions) have a chemical effect within the body.
Thoughts and feelings have an electromagnetic effect within the body and its field.
Past traumatic experiences, if not resolved, can have effects in the present.
Hoping our past doesn’t impact our present, generally doesn’t work.
Neuroscientists suggest that we are only consciously aware of our thoughts, feelings and even behaviours, about 2-8% of the time. When we are not fully present in the moment, we go into our unconscious autopilot ‘programs’. To understand this deeper check out – The Successful Mind.
Essentially non-physical things (emotions) can have physical effects on the body.
Physical interventions (medication, surgery, radiation, and even exercise & nutrition) don’t necessarily heal the root cause of emotional or physical symptoms.

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Are You Living According to YOUR Plan?

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Post date May 3, 2022
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I just finished having a Part 2 Podcast conversation with fellow coaching colleague of mine – Sharon Cavanaugh – where we delved deeper into what tools, tips and strategies we have in our arsenal to best serve ourselves and our clients when it comes to turning the dial up on life.

We switched around different topics, but there is one I want to focus on today.

It relates to the question:

Are you (a) doing what you love to do, or (b) what you have become good at?

We could also interchange the list of (b) options with…

…or what people think you should be doing?

…or what you think you should be doing?

…or what your parents wanted you to do?

…or what you get the most recognition from?

…etc.

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2 Common Mistakes when Manifesting Desires

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Post date April 26, 2022
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In a recent Life Masterclass podcast, I had a conversation with a coaching colleague of mine – Sharon Cavanaugh – about meditation and different modalities we have found to be most effective for ourselves and out clients. Do check it out.

We both agree one of our favourite meditators and educators is author and neuroscientist Dr Joe Dispenza, and recently Sharon and a mutual friend had the opportunity to attend an advanced retreat in Denver with Dr Joe. By the way if you ever get a chance to attend one of his events I HIGHLY recommend it. Life changing!!

After the event our mutual friend told me that I would love an insight and distinction Dr Joe shared.

He was talking about finding the balance between ‘intent’ and ‘surrender’. He suggested:

“Over-intent becomes trying (which is a form of separation) and over-surrender becomes giving up”.

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3 Simple Choices that Changed My Life

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Post date April 13, 2022
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When I am hosting workshops or seminars, I like to share parts of my origin story, for the groups benefit. I also like to think of myself as a ‘crash test dummy’.

I try things out on myself first (like a 5-day water-only fast) and then share with someone like you, what the outcomes were – good, bad and otherwise.

Starting during Easter 1999, I decided to undertake a 30-day challenge, which came in the form of a number CD’s and was presented by Tony Robbins. As a result of that activity, I decided to make (an action) three significant life choices, which steered my life in a (completely) different direction.

This is what I learned back then, coupled with insights from the last couple of decades.

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3 Easy Ways to Simplify Your Life

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Post date March 15, 2022
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Let’s start this conversation with a (simple) question for you.

Do you want more simplicity in your life, or more complexity?

If you want more simplicity please continue. If you want more complexity, then ‘good luck’ and I hope you have a great daily meditation practice in place and a therapist on speed dial.

Maybe some people do like complex lives. Though, unfortunately for some of those people, it might be a subconscious program telling them that, in order for them to be respected, revered or even loved, they need to look like they are special by showing of how ‘complex’ their lives are (and how capable they are in giving the appearance of being able to handle it).

For me complexity generally takes more time, energy and life force and therefore has a lower Life Fulfillment ROI (return on investment).

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EMF, Air Pods and Optimum Health

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Post date March 1, 2022
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I am 52 as I write this. I have been passionate about the health and wellness thing all my life, and full-time in the biz for close to two decades. Here is one unsurprising observation.

People make many choices based on ‘convenience’ rather than ‘I wonder whether (XYZ) might be bad for me in the medium to long term?’. And no this is not an article about the last 2 years, or anything covid related, though there is definitely some relevance.

Just before writing this article, I recorded a podcast talking about “Why, when and how we need to be our own doctor” (and scientist). I believe that one of the first stepping stones on the path to self-evolution or self-actualisation as Maslow called it; is personal responsibility. Unfortunately it is not sexy. Does not sell well. Frustrates my clients. And a lot of times it is damn pain in the butt.

But we all know it. Deep in our hearts. Sometimes what is actually good for us is not necessarily yummy, easy to do, or easy to maintain.

When was the last time you stepped up to the chin-up bar and got excited and giddy about the idea of busting out 10 chin-ups (or even 1 for that matter?