The other side of the coin
I often ask in my seminars which is a greater risk factor for coronary heart disease, out of ‘loneliness’ and ‘smoking’? Did you know according to research they are pretty much the same? So loneliness, or the feeling or deep disconnection, is actually highly detrimental to your health.
Just as loneliness is at one end of the spectrum, with the relevant health impacts, quality relationships are at the other end. They enhance your health. They increase your longevity and vitality. They are essential to optimum health and definitely worth going out of your way for.
A great story from my 25-year reunion (from the Royal Military College Duntroon)
One of the lads I met at the reunion, I had not seen for 25 years. In fact he had not seen any of us guys in the same company group for 25-years. When he first walked in the room he was overwhelmed with emotion as he said ‘I can’t believe I am actually here with you guys.’ It was a pretty amazing experience for us all.
I also got to talking with him and he told me that because he left because of personal reasons before graduating, he has always carried around with him a sense of failure, incompleteness and some unprocessed emotions. So his meeting and talking with us all after 25-years actually gave him some powerful closure and perspective. It was awesome to see. And when I told him how much trouble I got into as a junior officer (almost to the point of being asked to take a one-way ticket to some other profession), he realised that maybe he was not such a ratbag after all.
So this is the potential when we reach out and make the effort to connect with our friends.
So my challenge for you – right now
Once you finish reading this (and sending me an email to thank me for the reminder); I want you to think of someone who you have not spoken to, or seen, for ages.
Then get in touch with them.
And finally, organise to really catch up with them. In person is ALWAYS preferable. But if that is absolutely not possible, then coordinate with them to block out 1-2 hours of uninterrupted time to have a really long chat with them (Skype to Skype is even free). Find out what they are up to. What their future plans are. How their family is. How they are. Help out if you can. Let them know that you care and you are there if they ever need you.
It will make a difference to them, and I can guarantee, it will make a (HUGE) difference for you too.
Connecting with people in a meaningful and heartfelt way is one of the keys to happiness. So what are you waiting for??? 😉
If ever you ever need a hand dumping any excess baggage you might be carrying around (for way too long) don’t hesitate to get in touch. We won’t only dump the excess, we will also start looking at how you can tap into and get the very most out of the potential you have inside. Here’s to co-creating your amazing future!