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A 6th Way We Make Life Harder than It Needs to be

Since so many people enjoyed last weeks article, where I spoke out 5 ways we make life harder than it needs to be, I thought I would add to the list, while answering this question…

“How do we unintentionally (or accidentally) make life harder than it needs to be?”

I am a big fan of words like ease and grace.

Also I like a high return on investment, for the lowest expenditure of energy, time and resources.

I am always looking at how to improve things or make them easier and more impactful.

Life is hard enough as it is, so it makes a LOT of sense to not make it harder than it needs to be.

And given my work coaching for the last 15 years, I have had plenty of time to see people doing it tough, when they really don’t need to.

Plus I have seen how they are the ones – knowingly or unknowingly – making their own life hard.

It is most often not something “out there” which is causing pain, discomfort or disturbance in their lives, it is often something they are doing, because they are not aware of it, or don’t know better.

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Choice consciousness Decision Making Emotional Fear Life Lessons Perspective

5 Ways We Accidently Make Life Harder Than It Needs to be

Hands up if you want a ‘hard’ life?

I am guessing we had about 0% of hands showing.

I reckon the numbers would swing back to approximately 100% if I asked who wants more PEACE in their lives!

Who wouldn’t?

So let’s imagine at one end of the spectrum there is HARD and the other end is PEACE.

This article is about what we mostly ‘unconsciously’ (or accidentally) do, which sends us closer to the HARD end of the spectrum, and what we can do to move closer to the PEACE end of town.

So let’s dive straight in with the first way we make life harder.

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Choice Decision Making Growth Life Lessons Perspective

How Not to Make Terrible Decisions

This post might save you an inordinate amount of pain in your butt.

And who wouldn’t want a bit less of that?

You know I am big on decision-making, and how it shapes our reality.

I also have a lot of experience in the decision-making space, having not only written a book on it (Decision Making Mastery), but also having attended one of top leadership academies in the world (Royal Military College, Duntroon), was an Army Officer for 14 years, did consulting on bomb management to a bunch of Olympic Games, and been coaching for over 15 years.

I am not tooting my trumpet.

I just want to let you know I have some experience in the topic of decision-making, and how not to suck at it.

Sucking at it, is something I find is pretty common (unfortunately).

And the consequences are significant and make peoples lives much harder than they need to be.

I have also paid extra attention to a blind-spot playing out in a number (most) of my clients of late.

And because I am super curious, I am now even more clear about what the issue is.

Which is something you will DEFINITELY benefit from.

So let’s walk through the process.

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Choice Decision Making Perspective Success

Without This Insight, Great Decisions are Unlikely

You know I love the art and science of Decision-Making.

And I am sure you are all aware that the quality of your decisions, shape the quality of your life.

Bad work decisions can lead to loss of money or loss of job.

Bad financial decisions can lead to being broke, or indebted, or in possession of a share portfolio where the zero’s keep disappearing.

Bad relationship decisions…well, I think I don’t need to elaborate on that.

You get the point.

It’s important to be good at this thing – this thing called DECISION-MAKING.

So I want to focus on at least one element today, which is based on the very simple graphic below.

It’s looking at the relationship between reality and story when it comes to decision-making.

And of course if you want to go even deeper, check out my book Decision Making Mastery.

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Choice consciousness Decision Making Money Perspective

Merging Money, Consciousness and Knowledge

Welcome back.

Last week we spoke about Health (and root causes) and this week we will be talking about MONEY.

Especially as many people might have a bit less at this time of the year (January) after Christmas and the end of year (and start of year) festivities.

You know I am a big fan of Wisdom (knowledge + experience).

Increasing wisdom grants us the opportunity to make better choices (and co-create our destiny).

So I have been curious to better understand things like Digital ID’s, digital currencies (e.g. Bitcoin, etc.), central bank digital currencies, and the likes; as money impacts us all.

I recently watched a Dutch-produced documentary called State of Control and I also read a book by of one of the presenters (Brett Scott), called ‘Cloud Money‘, which was quite insightful. Plus one of my favourite reads in 2021 was ‘Your Money or Your Life‘ by Vicki Robin.

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Belief Choice consciousness Emotional Feeling Honesty Nutrition Perspective Stress

Are You Actually Looking at The Root Cause?

Again…Happy New Year!!

Let’s make this the year of living even more consciously, so the steps we take, and the footprints we leave, are in harmony with life, which also brings a lightness of being to our souls.

One way I think we can do a better job of being conscious, is not getting too distracted by surface level stuff, but curiously looking deeper for the actual root causes.

Hands up if you got ‘sick’ in, or around, the Xmas period or New Year?

This article is inspired by the first two clients I spoke to this year, who told me they were crook with the mighty “flu”.

The great thing about discovering the root cause, is we can then utilize the most effective intervention to get the best possible sustainable and long-term result.

So let’s look at potential root causes in relation to us getting crook.

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The Relationship Tip of All Relationship Tips

As we head into the Xmas season (as I am writing this), you are bound to bump up against people that “rub you up the wrong way”.

Would I be correct in saying?

Chances are; the more people you interact with, the higher likelihood you have of bumping into those special people in life who challenge you in every interaction.

There are some people that just trigger you.

With Xmas festivities coming, there is a high likelihood you will bump into them.

Or need to spend several days in their presence!!

(Moaning sound)

They might even be people who you truly love…

…but they frustrate the living beegeezus out of you!!

Want to know a secret?

9 times out of 10, the reason they trigger you is due to what I am about to share…

So get ready to get the antidote to this triggering event.

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Belief Choice consciousness Feeling Overwhelm Pain Perspective

Truly Understanding Guilt and Its Conscious Uses

First, a shout out to one of my beautiful clients for inspiring this post, as I know it will be SUPER useful.

They were dealing with guilt in the last two coaching sessions we had, so they got to understand it at a much deeper level.

And for me, awareness and understanding, precede a breakthrough to a new level of life potential.

But before we go any further…

How are you with the guilt thing?

Are you guilty of doing the ‘guilt thing’ on a semi-regular basis?

Unless you are a Saint, I am guessing ‘maybe’.

Today I want to talk about the upsides and downsides of GUILT and how best to work with it.

On (Sir) Dr David Hawkins, Map of Consciousness, the consciousness of “Guilt” is the second lowest, only above shame.

Which means the topic of guilt is definitely worth exploring.

So let’s get to it.

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Choice Confidence Decision Making Optimum Health Perspective Problem Success

Why Use Only 1 Brain When You Have 3 Brains?

Yes, I said 3!

And no, I have not lost the plot or been smoking weed (as a new hobby).

All will be revealed very shortly.

And then you will get to reap the benefits.

If you have heard me talk about this before, my apologies, but I am going to hazard a guess that you could benefit from a wee reminder.

For those new to your powerful, potent and task-specific 3 brains, let’s journey on.

Remember; the better we optimize our brains, the better decisions we make, and the greater Destiny we co-create.

WOOHOO!!

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Acceptance Choice consciousness Growth Life Lessons Perspective

How is Your Practice of Non-Attachment?

If you have read any books relating to Eastern philosophies, or yoga, or Buddhism, or even the Greek and Roman stoics; you are likely to have heard of the practice of ‘non-attachment.‘

Plus if you have followed me for awhile, you would have heard me slip it in – more than once.

WHY?

Because attachment is such a powerful force.

And because we are operating on autopilot (subconscious programs of the brain and autonomic system) well over 90% of the time, having more awareness of what we are, or are not attached to, is hugely beneficial.

And of course there is a very different outcome based on what you are attached to – i.e. sugar versus daily physical activity.

One is taking you two steps forward, and the other two steps back.

So it is not only the practice of non-attachment, but an awareness of what you might be attached to.

Is an attachment beneficial or detrimental to your physical and mental health?

That’s where we are going today.

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