I have a few things on, so I will be writing just punchy, powerful and very relevant Tips, based on the most recent Coaching conversations I have had with my clients.Let’s get started. 😉
Tip Number 1: Pay more attention to what you are creating
This is reminder and the most common thing I work on with all my clients – regardless of what specialist type of Coaching I am doing with them.
It’s called ‘don’t shoot yourself in the foot’.
The words we use are either creating what we want, creating what we don’t want, or causing us to be stuck on a hamster wheel, where we repeat the same patterns day in an day out.
What are the stories you are telling?
What are the sayings or statements you make without conscious attention or discernment?
What self fulfilling prophecies might you be buying into?
Are your words helping or hindering you?
Just for today, pay intimate attention to the words you are using. To the stories you are telling. To the realities you have bought into that are just not true.
This means you need to slow down in your dialogue and conversations, so you actually have a clue about what is coming out of your mouth. Novel hey? 😉
Today I want you to wear your WISDOM cap. And be slow, steady and deliberate like that tortoise who smoked the rabbit. 😉
Got it?!? Slow deliberate language, creates emotions and results of your choosing.
Tip Number 2: You can do this the hard way, but it will be MUCH harder
There are two major ways of dealing with ‘stuff’ that you don’t like.
1. Change all of the parts in your external environment.
2. Change your internal environment.
Option 1 requires you to actually be in ‘control’ and work on changing all of the external pieces. Like the weather, other people, the economy, the government, other drivers, banks, family, bosses, children, traffic, etc.
Good luck with that!!! 😉
Option 2 requires you to do the inner work, which you do have control of (as much as we like to use the excuse that we don’t).
Doing the inner work means getting curious about what is happening internally. What are you telling yourself? Is what you are telling yourself true? Do you have unrealistic expectations? What is the emotion you are feeling? Where are you feeling it? What is it telling you? Is there a pattern? What is the trigger? Are you exaggerating? Are you using emotive works and statements that are elevating your emotions?
When we get really curious about what is happening internally, without judgement and reactivity, our wisdom multiplies. Just quietly observing our emotions (for a minute or two), without judgement or stories, and through a lens of curiosity, can automatically cause an internal shift to occur.
With one emotion, there are often 100’s of thoughts associated (and most of them are rubbish). We can try to wrestle with these random thoughts as they slip through our fingers, or we can process the emotion through silent observation, and an elevated level of understanding.
And here is the funny thing that happens. When we experience awareness, understanding, and acceptance internally, our external world starts to shift.
So…work on moving the inner pieces, rather than the multitude of external pieces that you often have no control over. 😉
Tip number 3: Here is the secret
You are worthy right now, without anything else being added, removed or renovated.
You are worthy right now of feeling joy, being loved, experiencing abundance, being embracing by harmony, and a whole bunch of other good stuff.
There is no debt you have to pay.
Your debt was fully paid before you arrived on a one-way ticket to Planet Earth.
You are enough, right now. And you always have been (if you have been told otherwise, perhaps you got the wrong memo ;-))
Maybe you are not perfect (like the person I see reflected in my mirror), but that isn’t the aim. The aim is to be yourself. To bumble and stumble your way through life, doing the best you can, and always looking to do a little bit better every day (aim for about 4% ;-)).
Do your best to be a kind and caring person (especially to yourself). Forgive yourself and others when there is a mistake. Share your gifts with others. Be ok with not being the same as someone else or achieving at someone else’s level. Continue to learn and grow. Stay curious. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Laugh more. Goof about. Be weird. Do more handstands. Talk to trees, insects and animals.
When you truly accept and approve of yourself, regardless of what you are thinking or feeling, you are in a powerful place to create from. And then you are worthy of all the goodness and abundance that comes your way.
We are all worthy of not just what we have, but even a lot (lot) more.
Well that is what I have come to believe. 😉
Have an awesome day. Have a conscious day. And have an even more conscious life while you are at it too.