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The hidden power of an Impossible Goal

It’s question time.

Who reading this likes reading “business” books? 

There might be a few hands up, but chances are most people would lean towards some good quality fiction before they buried their nose, and used up their precious time, on a business book. 

However, recently I read a (business) book, which I even prioritized over the very well-written and suspenseful fantasy fiction book I was reading. 

It turns out that the business book was REALLY well written. 

Focused on a theme I am infinitely fascinated with. 

It also challenged some of my current beliefs and teachings – which is always a great thing. 

Learning and growing (evolution) is one of the main games after all. 

The thing I also realised with the theme, was it could as equally apply to “PEOPLE”, as it did business. 

It caused me to take a good hard look at a few things I had been trifling with of late. 

The book in question is called “The Science of Scaling” by Dr Benjamin Hardy and Blake Erikson. 

(If you are a business owner or in senior management, I STRONGLY encourage you to read this book before you start the New Year).

These dudes were about scaling businesses. 

Where I am about “scaling” people. 

Taking them from Version 1.0 to Version 2.0 (which is not a linear transition but an exponential transition).  

Do you want to know what my biggest take-aways were? 

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How to Become The Person Who Doesn’t Get Taken Advantage of

The one thing we DO NOT want to do, when it comes to getting out of an emotional state of anger (or the likes) is to SUPPRESS our feelings of anger. 

We might have been taught this growing up. 

We might have even had parents who modelled the “stuff it down and hope it goes away” strategy; but I am here to tell you that is a super crappy strategy, which is sure to bite you on the butt at some point in the future.

And sometimes it bites HARD!!!

So, the first thing, not to do, is suppress your emotions. 

Probably in the same sort of vein – though maybe not as harmful – are ignoring the feeling, distracting yourself from the feeling, or numbing it out.

Again, these are all pretty substandard strategies. 

It (the icky emotion) might suck, but there is a lot of relevance to the saying “you need to feel to heal“. 

Which leads me onto my next big no-no. 

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Is Your Mindset Bias Leaning The Right Way?

Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy. 

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A Common Goal, Which Actually Might Make Us Less Happy and Fulfilled

This goal is pretty common. 

I have definitely had this goal, or a derivation of it, at some points in my life. 

Thinking that if I attained this goal, life would be just great. 

Only to find that attaining this goal is actually a little hollow.

Not actually that much fun. 

And some research would even suggest it will take us to an early grave. 

And no, we are not talking about getting “high” off alcohol or drugs, which most of us realise is followed by a whopping headache and hang-over, or in the case of drugs, a downer for a handful of days after (or so I have read ;-)). 

The goal I am talking about…

Are you ready for it? 

Is…

The Goal of getting to the place where you don’t have to DO anything. 

Free of commitments and responsibilities. 

And the piece I want to focus on today is – more specifically – freedom from “having to work”.

You have also likely seen a bunch of conversations online where some younger folk are all for an unconditional basic income (UBI), which is not based on work status. 

Where you could still be paid to do nothing. 

Sounds great. 

But actually, it’s not. 

And thus starts today’s conversation.

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Creating A Solid Foundation In Order To Build “Greatness”

Having stable, solid, well-defined and deep foundations is ESSENTIAL to build anything GREAT from.

I am sure that concept is not news to you. 

We need to have great foundations in order to build anything great. 

Whether it is a skyscraper or an outstanding relationship.

Whether it is a great game of tennis, or a great business. 

The fundamental foundations matter a lot. 

But when it comes to us, as people, what EXACTLY do me mean (practically) when we talk about building a ‘solid foundation’? 

I use the term a LOT with my clients. 

So, I thought given I say it a lot, what exactly constitutes what I am calling a solid foundation? 

Hence, today’s topic.  

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Mental Pushing And Pulling – Thanks To Our Biology

Where to start?

How about with the name of the book I just finished reading, which shared pretty interesting insights. The book was called: ‘Why You’re Unhappy’ by Loretta Graziano Breuning, PhD.

I didn’t agree with everything she presented, but because she has a background in anthropology as well as psychology, it brought a nice perspective to her discussion on biology.

And the influence on our feelings and behaviours.

She spoke a lot about the individual roles of dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphins and cortisol; and how they are primarily used for survival (and reproduction of genes), as with all mammals.

I have talked before about the ‘mid’ brain, also called the limbic brain or mammalian brain.

It has a number of functions including regulation and generation of our emotions, which obviously affects us moment-to-moment and day-to-day.

I found a few things in this book especially fascinating.

Particularly the author’s overarching message.

We are not – biologically – designed to be ‘happy’ all the time.

It is not only okay, but “normal” to feel our emotions go up and go down throughout our day and life in general.

I think that is a great point.

If we EXPECT to be happy, all the time, or think there is something “wrong” with us if we aren’t, then we may be fighting reality.

What I also found fascinating was…

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The Bigger The ‘Gap’, The Bigger The Frustration & Disappointment

Let’s jump straight in.

Have you ever heard the following statement or philosophy?

The size of the GAP between the REALITY and your EXPECTATIONS, determines the amount of discomfort (frustration, anger, disappointment, etc.) you will experience.

As shown in my diagram further down.

Small GAP = small discomfort.

BIG GAP = BIG (emotional) PAIN. So today I want to look at the biggest EXPECTATION Boo-Boo’s (aka: mistakes) many people erroneously make.

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The Easy Way To Build Great Habits

I spoke about HABITS the other day.

Plus last week I spoke about the relationship between Goals and Process, as the authors of Tiny Habits and Atomic habits shared the same pint of view.

I also mentioned I would do a deeper overview of the book Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg, which I read recently.

It really is a great book (strategically) plus ol’ BJ, who is a Standford professor, is not writing to impress people with his literary skills, but is actually passionate about serving other people. 

It is great to see an academic who is more interested in the impact of his work, than academic accolades.

Thanks BJ!!

Essentially, there are a few BIG points to takeaway from his book and decades of practical application.

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Which Is More Important For Success: The Right Goal Or The Right Process?

The other day I was in a funky local cafe.

And part of their cool vibe was having paperback books you could read while hanging out there.

I spotted one of my fave books so I picked it up and flipped it open.

It was Atomic Habits by James Clear (and exceptionally great book).

I started reading the section that I had randomly flicked it open to and started to chuckle to myself.

I LOVE synchronicity and coincidence (which I consider means my alignment is good). 

The reason I chuckled is because I was reading a book on my Kindle earlier in the day by Scott Adams (the creator of the Dilbert comic strips), and he not only mentioned the same thing, but referenced back to James Clear and Atomic Habits as another person that agrees with this concept.

Therefore, I took that as a nudge that I need to share their insights and observations with you.

So here we go.

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The 1, 2, 3 to Getting More Clarity

The title may be a little misleading.

I was actually not thinking of step 1, step 2, and step 3.

But rather, Level 1, Level 2 and Level 3, when it comes to getting more CLARITY.

And in this case, the levels also refer to the size of the ‘problem’ or issues, or the size of the consequences of the decisions you have to make.

Let’s think of it like this:

Level 1 – A problem or decision to solve or figure out, but that is not too big or high in consequences.

Level 2 – The problem or decisions is a bigger, or more complex, and has more consequences if you “F” it up.

Level 3 – This is where the decisions you are making are complex, there numerous overlapping parts, and possibly a shortage of resources, so you need to be extra creative, plus the consequences of “F’ing it up” are pretty high (and potentially a huge pain in the butt and maybe even a potential financial loss).

So I see that these three levels of “challenge” require three different ENVIRONMENTS to enhance the probability of me solving it to the best of my ability.

I also like to use the metaphor of ‘stepping back’.

Level 1 = small step back.

Level 2 = medium size step backwards.

Level 3 = a big step backwards to allow the greatest level of perspective.

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