Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!
Enjoy.
As I suspect you know – I believe that it is the quality of our decisions that shape our destiny (which I even wrote a book on).
The yogi’s – 100’s of years ago – also knew this.
When considering the elements of the “mind” then understood that there was an Higher mind and a Lower mind.
Somewhat similar to our conscious mind and unconscious mind, but not exactly.
The yogi’s actually identified 4-parts of the mind.
Which is similar to modern psychologists with their Triune Brain model.
Although, I think the yogi’s had cooler sounding names.
The one I really like is the “Buddhi” part of mind.
The higher mind.
The one more closely connected to our individual (Purusha) and collective consciousness.
I doubly love the idea of having a “sharpened” Buddhi.
In modern language that would equate to a well-developed prefrontal cortex.
But the thing that most stands out for me (and was of primary interest to these yogi’s), was the power of DISCERNMENT.
Seeing the big picture.
I am almost 100% certain, that you, like me, have done this before.
And rather than me doing the big build up thing, let’s jump immediately into today’s topic.
But just to make sure of my “almost 100% certain” assumption, let me ask you this.
Have you EVER labelled an event – at the time – as “BAD”, only to find out at a future date that it was probably one of the best things to ever happen to you?
I am guessing you have.
We all have.
The next thing I am curious about is…
Exactly how many times do you think this has happened to you?
Once?
A few times?
Or if you really think about it…a LOT!
Since a “picture tells 1000 words” I figured I only need to write a handful of words today.
Which is good for all of us.
The other evening, I observed this “phenomenon“.
As you know, I live in a Bali village (not in a straw hut, but an actual house).
And in said village there are LOTS of ceremonies, celebrations (weddings, births, funerals, etc.), band practice (preparing for celebrations), roosters, dogs, and most recently a gaggle of ducks.
So, at times it can be a wee bit noisy.
The other night I was observing mine, and my partners REACTION to “loud noise”.
This time it was band practice, and it started about 8:30pm, when I am generally winding down for the day.
I felt myself getting a bit worked up.
I also noticed Ferry going up a few more notches higher than me.
But then I reminded myself of something I already know.
It is the STORIES we tell about the reality of an experience, which determines the MEANING of the experience, and therefore our body’s ultimate response.
The lightbulb went on, and my level of bothersomeness went down.
Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!
Enjoy.
I have been pondering something of late.
As you may have noticed – unless you are working on your enlightenment in the nearest mountain cave – the world is a little bit bonkers at the moment.
And to be a little more specific, sad as it is, all of us have probably personally be touched by, or clearly noticed a rise in the number of people with (to generalise) “mental health” issues or challenges.
I just did a quick search online and the estimated number of people with a mental ‘disorder’ globally, in 2019 was about 1 in 9.
Which, to tell the truth, was higher than I thought it would be.
And there are several reports of that number going up significantly from 2020-2023, due to a world event (and periphery events) we are all familiar with.
So, without getting into too much more doom and gloom, we can all acknowledge that there are a lot of people having significant challenges with life in this modern age.
The second part, to set the context of the brief conversation I want to have with you, is over the last 20-years of so, there has been so much pressure on what we can and can’t say about one another, or to one another.
This has even had an impact on what is deemed appropriate for comedians to make “jokes” about.
Anyway, my point is this…
This goal is pretty common.
I have definitely had this goal, or a derivation of it, at some points in my life.
Thinking that if I attained this goal, life would be just great.
Only to find that attaining this goal is actually a little hollow.
Not actually that much fun.
And some research would even suggest it will take us to an early grave.
And no, we are not talking about getting “high” off alcohol or drugs, which most of us realise is followed by a whopping headache and hang-over, or in the case of drugs, a downer for a handful of days after (or so I have read ;-)).
The goal I am talking about…
Are you ready for it?
Is…
The Goal of getting to the place where you don’t have to DO anything.
Free of commitments and responsibilities.
And the piece I want to focus on today is – more specifically – freedom from “having to work”.
You have also likely seen a bunch of conversations online where some younger folk are all for an unconditional basic income (UBI), which is not based on work status.
Where you could still be paid to do nothing.
Sounds great.
But actually, it’s not.
And thus starts today’s conversation.
Having stable, solid, well-defined and deep foundations is ESSENTIAL to build anything GREAT from.
I am sure that concept is not news to you.
We need to have great foundations in order to build anything great.
Whether it is a skyscraper or an outstanding relationship.
Whether it is a great game of tennis, or a great business.
The fundamental foundations matter a lot.
But when it comes to us, as people, what EXACTLY do me mean (practically) when we talk about building a ‘solid foundation’?
I use the term a LOT with my clients.
So, I thought given I say it a lot, what exactly constitutes what I am calling a solid foundation?
Hence, today’s topic.
Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!
Enjoy.
Let’s jump straight in.
Have you ever heard the following statement or philosophy?
The size of the GAP between the REALITY and your EXPECTATIONS, determines the amount of discomfort (frustration, anger, disappointment, etc.) you will experience.
As shown in my diagram further down.
Small GAP = small discomfort.
BIG GAP = BIG (emotional) PAIN. So today I want to look at the biggest EXPECTATION Boo-Boo’s (aka: mistakes) many people erroneously make.