I have coached lots of different people over the past 18 years.
Plus, I have been “coaching” myself for the last 26 years.
And something that has come up frequently in those conversations, when people reach out to me ready to do the “deeper inner work“, is their thoughts about “Who am I?”
Maybe you can relate to this.
In fact, if you ask yourself that question right now, do you receive a very coherent and clear response?
It’s actually a great question to play with.
But what I have consistently witnessed over time is that the idea of “trying to find yourself” is not the most effective Strategy.
And perhaps causes people to look in all the wrong directions.
Additionally, it doesn’t seem to tap into the most powerful parts of self.
The human being-ness of us.
One of the most powerful things we have access to is an UNIMITED potential to CREATE.
Which is our discussion point today.
You are a Creative Genius
I believe it was Einstein who said something about IMAGINATION being one of the most powerful human attributes.
The ability to see something before it comes into form.
And then there is the work in the quantum physics field, which suggests that conscious can influence and affect matter.
In the yogic world, it is about creating something in a clear, stable and luminescent mind, which is SO potent that it influences the field of energy around you, magnetizing that thing in mind into reality (in quantum speak that might be collapsing a wave of possibility into a particle of actuality).
In essence, your mind, linked to a coherent heart (which powerfully influences the quantum field), is extremely good at CREATING things from nothing.
Which brings us back to the central theme.
The idea that trying to “FIND” yourself or “DISCOVER” yourself, is a bit ass-about-face.
It can start a journey of never-ending years.
Which might be a wonderful adventure, but…there might be a more effective way.
This more effective way ensures you don’t find the self, which is “almost” what you are in alignment with.
It is a sense of self which is EXACTLY what you long to be.
Because you CREATED it from the inside out.
Let me explain what I mean.
Being in the creative (Captain’s) seat
This Strategy is pretty simple.
And allows you to start with a clean sheet of paper.
(Although, sorry to say up front, it is not easy; but then what of any true worth is?)
You just ask yourself a few very simple questions (which also fires up your higher mind):
1) Who do I want BECOME?
2) What VALUES or VIRTUES do I want to embody, and be known for?
3) What do I want my LEGACY to be (as in, what do I want to leave in my parting)?
You actually DESIGN who you want to BE, and then you align and live into that image of self.
You get to create you.
Yes, we are shaped by our history.
Yes, we have some genetic influences (though not as much as we once believed).
Yes, we have picked up some crappy habits and behaviours along the way.
But don’t waste time trying to find the mythical you out side, or even inside of yourself.
Decide who you want to be, and then BE it.
The brain is neuroplastic (meaning it can change till you take your last breath).
Our minds are not fixed.
We are not fixed, or even a slave to our past.
We can CREATE the person who we most aspire to be, from this point forth.
And THAT is who we actually are.
In Summary
We don’t have to waste time “trying to find ourselves”.
A better strategy is to decide who you want to BE (regardless of your history, genes, upbringing, habits, etc.).
And then BECOME that you, which you imagined and breathed into CREATION.
Like Joe Dispenza says: When you change your personality (by becoming the you, you choose), you change your personal reality (i.e. the world bends around you).
My Parting Words
It was simple message I wanted to impart today.
The idea that time is best spent working on WHO YOU WANT TO BECOME, as opposed to looking everywhere for something that defines who you are in a language you can understand.
It is the BEING that defines us.
I am a big fan of the powerful creative potential within us all.
With an ability to change our personalities, to bring us into greater alignment with ourselves, and the life that lives in us and all around us.
Listening to a recent message by Zack Bush MD, he talks about the frequency of “AUTHENTICITY” being 40-times stronger than the frequency of JOY, as measured in a research experiment.
I believe when we are on our creative path to being, it is about coming into true alignment with all parts of ourselves.
And the feedback might be this deep sense of authenticity, which tells us we have chosen the right path.
Or guides us back into alignment.
Who do you want to BE and BECOME?
What VALUES do you want to align with and embody?
How do you want to make the world a BETTER place?
Worthy questions to breath your infinite creative energy into.
And, I think I will leave you with that.
Have fun.
See for today what it feels like to lean into the self you most admire, and then expand that into the week and beyond
Take care.
Carl
Quotable QUOTE:
“Don’t waste time “trying to find yourself”. Decide who you want to BE. BECOME that which you imagined and then breathed into CREATION.” Carl Massy
(Author of 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be)
PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be
