Category: Growth

What Is “Really” Holding You Back

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Post date January 20, 2026
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As you may, or may not know, I have been Coaching for over 18 years now.

When I have a new client contact me, I ask them to complete a (very) detailed questionnaire.

I question what events have shaped their current reality; what they do or don’t think they have control of; what they really want in life; and what they think may be holding them back.

It’s the last question I am most interested in today.

What people “believe” is holding them back, from greater happiness, joy, health, success, etc..

There is often a common theme.

And many people think if only they just worked harder on this one thing, or had more of this one thing in their bag of tricks, they would be way happier, successful and fulfilled.

In my experience, what people think is the major DIFFERENCE MAKER in success is the wrong thing.

Through no real fault of their own.

It is just what so many people have been led to believe.

Whether through bad advice from “experts” or marketing messages, or pure baloney peddled on their Instagram feed by “Influencers” (spinning worldly advice – with no context – in a about minute).

So, my theory is that many people (maybe most) are taught the wrong thing.

Let me explain.

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The hidden power of an Impossible Goal

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Post date December 16, 2025
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It’s question time.

Who reading this likes reading “business” books?

There might be a few hands up, but chances are most people would lean towards some good quality fiction before they buried their nose, and used up their precious time, on a business book.

However, recently I read a (business) book, which I even prioritized over the very well-written and suspenseful fantasy fiction book I was reading.

It turns out that the business book was REALLY well written.

Focused on a theme I am infinitely fascinated with.

It also challenged some of my current beliefs and teachings – which is always a great thing.

Learning and growing (evolution) is one of the main games after all.

The thing I also realised with the theme, was it could as equally apply to “PEOPLE”, as it did business.

It caused me to take a good hard look at a few things I had been trifling with of late.

The book in question is called “The Science of Scaling” by Dr Benjamin Hardy and Blake Erikson.

(If you are a business owner or in senior management, I STRONGLY encourage you to read this book before you start the New Year).

These dudes were about scaling businesses.

Where I am about “scaling” people.

Taking them from Version 1.0 to Version 2.0 (which is not a linear transition but an exponential transition).

Do you want to know what my biggest take-aways were?

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How to Become The Person Who Doesn’t Get Taken Advantage of

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Post date December 9, 2025
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The one thing we DO NOT want to do, when it comes to getting out of an emotional state of anger (or the likes) is to SUPPRESS our feelings of anger.

We might have been taught this growing up.

We might have even had parents who modelled the “stuff it down and hope it goes away” strategy; but I am here to tell you that is a super crappy strategy, which is sure to bite you on the butt at some point in the future.

And sometimes it bites HARD!!!

So, the first thing, not to do, is suppress your emotions.

Probably in the same sort of vein – though maybe not as harmful – are ignoring the feeling, distracting yourself from the feeling, or numbing it out.

Again, these are all pretty substandard strategies.

It (the icky emotion) might suck, but there is a lot of relevance to the saying “you need to feel to heal“.

Which leads me onto my next big no-no.

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Time to Get Clear About What Is In Your Control

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Post date November 4, 2025
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Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy.

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Like Oil And Water These Things Don’t Go Well Together

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Post date October 28, 2025
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As I suspect you know – I believe that it is the quality of our decisions that shape our destiny (which I even wrote a book on).

The yogi’s – 100’s of years ago – also knew this.

When considering the elements of the “mind” then understood that there was an Higher mind and a Lower mind.

Somewhat similar to our conscious mind and unconscious mind, but not exactly.

The yogi’s actually identified 4-parts of the mind.

Which is similar to modern psychologists with their Triune Brain model.

Although, I think the yogi’s had cooler sounding names.

The one I really like is the “Buddhi” part of mind.

The higher mind.

The one more closely connected to our individual (Purusha) and collective consciousness.

I doubly love the idea of having a “sharpened” Buddhi.

In modern language that would equate to a well-developed prefrontal cortex.

But the thing that most stands out for me (and was of primary interest to these yogi’s), was the power of DISCERNMENT.

Seeing the big picture.

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Making Assumptions About “Bad” Stuff

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Post date October 21, 2025
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I am almost 100% certain, that you, like me, have done this before.

And rather than me doing the big build up thing, let’s jump immediately into today’s topic.

But just to make sure of my “almost 100% certain” assumption, let me ask you this.

Have you EVER labelled an event – at the time – as “BAD”, only to find out at a future date that it was probably one of the best things to ever happen to you?

I am guessing you have.

We all have.

The next thing I am curious about is…

Exactly how many times do you think this has happened to you?

Once?

A few times?

Or if you really think about it…a LOT!

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Turn Up Your “Sense Of Humour” And You’ll Turn Down Your Stress

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Post date September 30, 2025
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I have been pondering something of late.

As you may have noticed – unless you are working on your enlightenment in the nearest mountain cave – the world is a little bit bonkers at the moment.

And to be a little more specific, sad as it is, all of us have probably personally be touched by, or clearly noticed a rise in the number of people with (to generalise) “mental health” issues or challenges.

I just did a quick search online and the estimated number of people with a mental ‘disorder’ globally, in 2019 was about 1 in 9.

Which, to tell the truth, was higher than I thought it would be.

And there are several reports of that number going up significantly from 2020-2023, due to a world event (and periphery events) we are all familiar with.

So, without getting into too much more doom and gloom, we can all acknowledge that there are a lot of people having significant challenges with life in this modern age.

The second part, to set the context of the brief conversation I want to have with you, is over the last 20-years of so, there has been so much pressure on what we can and can’t say about one another, or to one another.

This has even had an impact on what is deemed appropriate for comedians to make “jokes” about.

Anyway, my point is this…

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A Common Goal, Which Actually Might Make Us Less Happy and Fulfilled

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Post date September 23, 2025
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This goal is pretty common.

I have definitely had this goal, or a derivation of it, at some points in my life.

Thinking that if I attained this goal, life would be just great.

Only to find that attaining this goal is actually a little hollow.

Not actually that much fun.

And some research would even suggest it will take us to an early grave.

And no, we are not talking about getting “high” off alcohol or drugs, which most of us realise is followed by a whopping headache and hang-over, or in the case of drugs, a downer for a handful of days after (or so I have read ;-)).

The goal I am talking about…

Are you ready for it?

Is…

The Goal of getting to the place where you don’t have to DO anything.

Free of commitments and responsibilities.

And the piece I want to focus on today is – more specifically – freedom from “having to work”.

You have also likely seen a bunch of conversations online where some younger folk are all for an unconditional basic income (UBI), which is not based on work status.

Where you could still be paid to do nothing.

Sounds great.

But actually, it’s not.

And thus starts today’s conversation.